jay_ba
02-09-2003, 05:08 PM
My GF and I broke up about a month ago, but there are some questions I have that I am hoping for some direction on before I think about tackling a new relationship.
She moved with me to a *VERY* far away country. Once we arrived she started drinking every day. Until she left my entire salary was being spent each month. We started having a lot of fights about money. I was trying to save some, she would argue about the price of tea (seriously!).
Well, here on the TV there are some porn channels late at night. While flipping through one evening I found the channels. She was instantly angry with me. She was going on about how morally wrong pornography was, how it made you stupid, and how much she hated it.
This bothered me as she liked to read really pornographic books. One in particular is called Behind the Door and has all kinds of scenes like group sex, rape, etc. This she is fine with because she calls it "erotica", but it is basically the same without the actual people.
We had discussed trying a threesome, she had done FFM many times with her best friend (including with the boyfriend before me), and I have tried MMF. When we first started together she would tell me about her sleeping with her best friend while we were having sex. About the same period of time she was on her porn ranting, she was angry with me for having the want to try a threesome with another girl. Nothing could be said, of course, about her want of having a threesome with another guy.
Then started the abuse, which led to her going back home. When she was really drunk she would threaten me with bottles, knives. Just all kinds of psychotic behavour.
What would have made her so anit-porn considering her like for hard-erotic literature and her "previous" sexual openness?
Why would she have about-faced on the threesome issues except for her own desires?
Thanks in advance.
She moved with me to a *VERY* far away country. Once we arrived she started drinking every day. Until she left my entire salary was being spent each month. We started having a lot of fights about money. I was trying to save some, she would argue about the price of tea (seriously!).
Well, here on the TV there are some porn channels late at night. While flipping through one evening I found the channels. She was instantly angry with me. She was going on about how morally wrong pornography was, how it made you stupid, and how much she hated it.
This bothered me as she liked to read really pornographic books. One in particular is called Behind the Door and has all kinds of scenes like group sex, rape, etc. This she is fine with because she calls it "erotica", but it is basically the same without the actual people.
We had discussed trying a threesome, she had done FFM many times with her best friend (including with the boyfriend before me), and I have tried MMF. When we first started together she would tell me about her sleeping with her best friend while we were having sex. About the same period of time she was on her porn ranting, she was angry with me for having the want to try a threesome with another girl. Nothing could be said, of course, about her want of having a threesome with another guy.
Then started the abuse, which led to her going back home. When she was really drunk she would threaten me with bottles, knives. Just all kinds of psychotic behavour.
What would have made her so anit-porn considering her like for hard-erotic literature and her "previous" sexual openness?
Why would she have about-faced on the threesome issues except for her own desires?
Thanks in advance.