What is up with men??

[Nobody Special]

I have noticed from reading posts here and at other sites that Men keep bringing up the same questions..... Mainly about their PENIS size... and that women keep saying the same thing all the time.......

Now My question is........ Why are men so insecure about their sexuallity when women don't really care how Big or small they are??

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P.S. Yes I'm asking this from a man's point of view....

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[Teddy Bear]

Probably for the same reason women are insecure about breast size or the size of their butt or that tiny little roll in the middle..... human nature. Filled with insecurities & self-doubt.

And then I wonder if sometimes its just a way to get the person your with to tell you how great & perfect & wonderful & etc you are.....?????

This from a woman's point of view.

Teddy :D :D

[Casperr]

Well, when was the last time you saw porn where the guy had a 5" dick?
We never read about the sexy, erotic appeal of a nice, small 4.5" cock, do we?

Sure, the vast majority of women here - and probably the world - would if being honest tell you that size doesn't matter, and it's what you do with it and how you treat them in other ways that are more important. And that's true. But the penis is a symbol of masculinity - the bigger the dick, the more macho society things that person. It's complete crap, but that's the belief.

It's also an instinctive primal thing - the male with the bigger cock is higher on the mating order than its average or smaller dicked pals.
That's animals for you.

Fact of the matter is, there's just something more appealing about a long, thick, hard cock... and that appeal gets emphasised in porn, and what we see in porn often dictates what we think. So it's a deadly circle.

Besides - everyone wants a bigger brain - and, well, men think with their dicks.

Just my thoughts.
CasperTG

[Cabrylla]

I still think we all fish for a few compliments here and there, though insecurity in our bodies are something that we all face from time to time....no matter how flawless we might be

[skipthisone]

We think therefore it shrinks...

[CptMorgan]

My wife and I were discussing this very topic the other day. The conclusion we came up with was:

"Some men need to brag about the size of their penis. Some men just let their wives do it for them."

[Lilith]

Vaginas are amazing. When properly influenced, enticed, a woman can find pleasure in any size member.

[ryker]

I must agree with Lilith.

ROMANCE & FOREPLAY are the key.

Nature and genetics gave me 6" so in my life i have probably tried that little bit harder because mine is not a "bigone".

I blame society and advertising, but i keep the ladies happy :0P

[PantyFanatic]

And it seems to be the same one you had before. You just can’t argue with the collective wisdom of the Pixie people.:rolleyes:

I concur with about everything said but think Casper inclusive response touched the reason that all genital size appearance stirs an involuntary reaction in us. The primal instincts that perpetuate the specie is exploited and manipulated because it works in this animal.




LMAO@ skip:)

[Teddy Bear]

pf..... what did you just say?? I know all those words seperately but put together as you did, I haven't a clue what you just said; starting with 'I concur' and ending with 'in this animal'. I thought it was a foreign language,,,,,

Whatever pf said Casper I thought you touched on something very important,,,,, but not just porn, the media in general. Young girls are so influnced by images they see in magazines. They try to reach this unattainable look, many of them developing eating disorders or becoming depressed or full of insecurites because they don't look like the 'perfect' girl should look.

No wonder so many of us grow up hating our bodies, which carries over to a general dislike of ourselves overall with lack of confidence, self esteem, etc.

Lets take out a class action suit against the media & false images. Why don't they show a REAL woman or mans size once in awhile?

omg did I get carried away,,,, sorry. The bear will quietly search for some honey now,,,,

Teddy :D :D

[Cobalt]

Lemme tell ya, I would personally run screaming if someone was pointing a dick the size of the ones I see in porn at me!!! Ouch! Just the thought of that makes my eyes cross (not to mention to my legs)

[Dark Lord]

Dammit, just cuz we're guys doesn't mean we don't
have our own insecurities and stuff!!!
...somebody hand me my teddybear....*sniff sniff*

[WildIrish]

Moderation is the key. I think ladies are generally happy with any penis in the average range. Miniscule ones don't give them that "I'm full" feeling while monster dicks intimidate them.

[Vigil]

I want to leave my big house in my big car and go to the big fancy restaurant and have their biggest steak and pay from my big wallet with my big limit card because I have a big salary from my big job, take my girl home in my big car to my big house and go to our big bed, take out my big cock and put it in her small pussy.

[hitachi]

Well and will say that I can only clear the 6 inch mark on a good day, now I can certainly please my wife with it. But you will never be able to convince me that if a well worked 6 incher feels good, that a 7 inch would not feel better. I do believe that girth it’s just as important as length if not more so. I may be just a little on the short side but make up that missing part with some extra thickness. (No it’s not a coke can). I am blessed with the right proportions and a large head, my wife loves it, its not so big that she cant handle it where ever she want to take it. But that still will not keep me from whishing I could reach in deep and gently touch the bottom of her honey pot.

[ericthered]

You're right, Nobody Special, the whole thing about size is just STUPID! A dumb guy with a oversized dick is just as useless as a bimbo with oversized tits.

Second thoughts. Probably less useful; at least the bimbo doesn't hide her rack away completely and we can enjoy the sight as long as we don't have to talk to her. A big dick might be interesting if he could wave it around in public, but Thank God that's not common.

[Loulabelle]

We know that guys have insecurities......as we all do, but I think the point is that you don't see pages and pages of threads about 'Are my breasts large enough/ small enough/ round enough/ soft enough?' on here or threads where women have measured the circumferance of their buttocks and are comparing?

Women DO have insecurities, just like men (and I would argue that we are under more pressure in terms of the images we are exposed to through the media) but at Pixies rather than talk about it.....we women post a couple of pics and see what people think rather than describe ourselves in terms of measurements etc.

What guys need to know is that sexiness/attractiveness/being good in bed is f*** all to do with maths (feet and inches, pounds and ounces etc) and everything to do with a certain twinkle in the eye, the way you make someone else feel, a sense of humour........these are the things which will please a woman in bed ultimately......NOT having an inch more than the guy next to you.

[Vigil]

Amen and thank you Loulabelle.

[dzbuster]

as men there is a certain feeling of competition for available females. i actually stopped being friends with a guy i'd know from age nine 9 to 25 because he felt he should have more than one gf before i got one. i caught him acting on it and just before we went at it a third friend told him that his gf was straying. couldn't fight i was laughing too hard. that's like when i'd tell a woman i'm "adequate " they always cooled off. every guy i know told me he's lasted longer if we discussed sex. yet women tell me quite a differant story. and here i go continuing the circle.

[south]

One reason is certainly self-doubt. You always hear things like… Women say, "it isn't the size of the vessel, it is the motion of the ocean" and then you breathe this sigh of relief and you are feeling alright until you then hear some other woman respond..."yeah but only a fool goes out in the ocean in a dinghy" Oh no! Here come those feelings of inadequacy again…I got an email the other day from one of the many “firms” marketing penis enlargement systems. The “head”line was 67% of all women “polled” want their lovers to have larger a penis but they would never say anything to their partner…Oh My God…talk about grading on a curve! What if you figure that 10% of the women are lesbian? That means the remaining 33% is now actually 23%? Only 23% of all women are satisfied with their lover’s equipment?
Thank God for oral sex. But the other day I was taking a good look at my tongue and I was thinking that it was looking rather short.

[denny]

I don't believe that large penises perform better than average ones. It is all about personality and drive and have had the same opinion expressed by many females that I know. I have, however, overheard some gals talking about certain guys and their size and they seemed to be rather excited about a certain fellow with a very large penis, despite the fact that they had not been with him (or the generally held opinion). So, even though ladies decry no preference for BIG boys, they may not be able to resist the challenge to conquer one and give it a try whereas they may not be so disposed to do the same with “smaller” fellows.

Guys, on the other hand, either don't really give a hoot or they have some degree of performance anxiety. This is just another brand of insecurity. My first lover had a rather small vagina and believe me, large girth is no aphrodisiac for such a woman. It can absolutely be an instrument of fear! :eek: