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Shadozfire

06-05-2007, 07:55 PM

cherrypie7788

06-05-2007, 11:38 PM

You MUST bring a date?

GreenChef

06-06-2007, 01:55 AM

Send me a plane ticket...
kidding
I'd be flying overseas if I could...

Loulabelle

06-06-2007, 03:51 AM

Oh I just couldn't do it.....I'd just HAVE to go on my own, and if anyone questioned, I'd have to tell them that it's not necessary for me to have a man on my arm to validate me.

YOU are the one who works for the company. YOU are the person that needs to 'mingle' and make a good impression. If you take a man with you, you may judged on his merits (or lack of them) and not your own....how could you do that, if it's not a man you choose to be associated with long term?

How would you be expected to handle this if you were in a same sex relationship? How can they discriminate against single people by MAKING you take a bloke with you? You say, 'This is Texas' as though you are not entirely in agreement with this attitude, so why not challenge it? It'll always be that way if people who disagree fit in for the sake of not making trouble. If it weren't for Rosa Parks, then perhaps there'd still be racial segregation. Why not make a stand against an outdated (and frankly, to my foreigner's mind, shockingly offensive) attitude?

anythinggoes69u

06-06-2007, 04:29 AM

I was informed today, by work, that there will be cocktail and dinner party that would be politically correct for me to attend. The kicker is that I must attend with a date and I seem to be at a loss for a man to take. Being that this is Texas, I do not take this lightly. How do I do this with no man in sight? Not only do they have to look absolutely wonderful, but they have to own a suit. UGH please help!

SF
Have you not got a female workmate who's partner doesn't know a single suitable mate who knows the score so there will be no problems at the end of the evening.

Unless he's gorgeous of course !!!

LixyChick

06-06-2007, 04:55 AM

This sounds like a movie I saw with Jennifer Aniston playing your part. She "found" a date and it was a disaster initially. Turns out honesty would have been the best policy but her friend at work thought otherwise. In the end her honesty about lacking an S/O brought her wealth and a relationship. But that is Hollywood and this is real life.

Let your heart guide you! Whatever feels right will be right!

P.S. What does Texas have to do with it?

maddy

06-06-2007, 05:46 AM

I find this whole thing a bit odd. I've been to professional cocktail and dinner parties (while in Texas) and it was never required for me to have a male counterpart with me. I mingled amongst the people I knew and left when I was ready, on my own.

But if you must have a date, consider a friend, relative (brother, cousin....), neighbor, any male you feel comfortable enough to spend a formal evening with. Or even, another co-worker who isn't invited to attend (woops! I guess I assumed this is a work event).

PantyFanatic

06-06-2007, 09:53 AM

/me runs to Homeland Security Office with Lone Star visa application

Black tie or white? :confused:

OH:( You said "...they have to look absolutely wonderful..." :banghead:

cherrypie7788

06-06-2007, 10:13 AM

The whole thing just seems odd to me, sorry.

osuche

06-06-2007, 10:23 AM

Bring a guy friend if you really feel uncomfortable going stag.

And I hope you have a great time!

WildIrish

06-06-2007, 11:46 AM

I have nothing but obvious advice so I'll be the :ahole: that suggests bribing the border patrol to let a cute one slip by. :p

WildIrish

06-06-2007, 11:58 AM

I've come up with another stupid answer! :D

Bring me and the entire evening will be so uncomfortable that they'll never require it again! :p

IowaMan

06-06-2007, 01:54 PM

OMG WI.......... :roflmao:

GreenChef

06-06-2007, 02:10 PM

I like WI's answer, though i doubt it's true

WildIrish

06-06-2007, 02:12 PM

I like WI's answer, though i doubt it's true

Have you read many of my posts? I'm a bit of a goofball. lol

Lilith

06-06-2007, 02:58 PM

#1 What does being politically correct have to do with an office/work related event?

#2 Why would you be required to have a date?

#3 What does Texas have to do with anything?

#4 What are you looking for advice or a volunteer?

Shadozfire

06-06-2007, 06:47 PM

Lou--I completely agree with you!! However, the women that have gone without dates were made miserable at work afterwards. I am new to the state and my job and do not really want to cause issues that could be avoided. So, if I cannot get a date, I will get a migraine really damn quick!

Lixie--Oooooo.....would love for it to work out that way!!!

WI--I like the this suggestion better than the first!

Lilith--1# Everything when you work around a bunch of god complexed surgeons. 2# Not sure of the "why". Was just told that things would be better for me if I took a date. Women in the past that did not take a date....their worklife was not so enjoyable for months after that. 3# I assume it is some sort of backwoods southern thing....as I have never encountered this anywhere else. 4# Advice and/or volunteer!! ;)

cherrypie7788

06-06-2007, 07:09 PM

It most certainly is NOT a "backwoods southern thing", coming from a "backwoods" southerner. Not everyone in the south is that way, TRUST me.

It sounds ridiculous and I dont see how your work life would be "miserable" afterwards. If someone told me that, they would regret it because if my work life WAS made miserable afterwards, I would pursue the issue legally.

You need to step up and do what YOU want to do.

Shadozfire

06-06-2007, 07:12 PM

Cherry-I was told that it would be better for me if I brought a date.....

Green--Thanks for the offer!!

Anything--Know any gorgeous single men in Texas or one that would be willing to fly in??? (fingers crossed)

Maddy--I have exhausted all normal avenues :(.

PF--Business Casual (meaning suit and tie). Did I say wonderful???

Osuche--Wish I had male friends here!!!

WI--Guess I will have to brush up on my Spanish! Thanks for the suggestion.

Shadozfire

06-06-2007, 07:14 PM

Well unless a gorgeous man happens to land in my lap in the next couple of weeks, or a Pixie man does make it to Houston....I will go by myself and damn them all to Hell and look HOT doing it!!! What if I wanted to go to it by myself in the chance of meeting a cute single surgeon?? I consider that networking LOL.

maddy

06-06-2007, 07:17 PM

Ummm... Houston ... not so much backwoods... actually a rather large metropolis.

Shadozfire

06-06-2007, 07:18 PM

Oh trust me--it is backwards in a LOT of ways!

Aqua

06-06-2007, 07:28 PM

No sense in people trying to keep up with different threads on the same subject... hope the merge didn't throw things too out of whack.

Shadozfire

06-06-2007, 08:02 PM

Aqua--Thanks! I did not expect sooo many responses. This has gotten more responses than my post about anal toys!

PantyFanatic

06-06-2007, 08:18 PM

...... This has gotten more responses than my post about anal toys!
Only because Aqua is still working on his custom thesis to you. :hump:

:rofl:

Shadozfire

06-06-2007, 08:21 PM

PF--Ooooo Can't wait!! Do I get one from you as well??

Loulabelle

06-07-2007, 01:09 AM

Good for you hun!

If I were you, I'd let people know ahead of time that you're going on your own. And if someone says something about your working life being miserable for a while afterwards, I'd ask them directly:

'Is that a threat? Are you planning on harrassing me because I won't sell out to a pathetic rule that says you have to take a date? OK, I'll make sure I make my appointment with my lawyer ahead of time, shall I?'

wyndhy

06-07-2007, 08:48 AM

sometimes that ^^^ is easier said than done. making waves, no matter how much you might want to, is usually not worth it. especially if you like what you do (mostly), plan on staying in your career, and working in the same office with the same people. it's not the good ol boys, or backwoods mentality or political correctness ... it's workplace politics. sometimes, you just gotta zip it and play the game. my husband has to do the same thing on occasion, and it's not a race thing, or a sex thing, or a personal thing ... it's just a work thing.

of course, as with anything, there are exceptions and times when you absolutely must stand up for what's right. but imho, being told that a date is appropriate isn't one of those times. if they had said, don't bring a date and you're fired then that'd be different. having to endure a little (what sounds to me like) good-natured ribbing for not bringing a date doesn't seem all that bad.

Shadozfire

06-07-2007, 06:54 PM

Hmm not so sure it is just good natured ribbing. The Administrator of the Dept really shuts people down, forgets to tell them about a meeting, fabricates projects she supposedly told them to work on etc.... I am doing all I can to find a date. So we shall see....

jseal

06-07-2007, 08:23 PM

Shadozfire,

I agree with wyndhy. Proper judgment is better than unwarranted bravery. If you like what you do for a living, and you wish to continue to do it as you currently are, then you would be wise to consider carefully if this imposition warrants “standing up to them”.

“Them” can do you in.

Shadozfire

06-07-2007, 08:27 PM

Very true words jseal! Very true! I definitely do not need them doing me in!

Loulabelle

06-08-2007, 01:46 AM

Maybe the work culture is different over here then. To me it's just unspeakable that work could bully me into something like this - particularly by displaying the kind of behaviour you're talking about. The person in question deserves to be fired for that kind of victimising behaviour - if everyone continues to jump through hoops for the sake of this completely unprofessional administrator, then nothing will ever change.

I'm all for letting things slide if they're not important (you wouldn't believe some of the crap I've dealt with at work for the sake of being a peacemaker) but to me, this is absolutely unacceptable. I can't stand work telling me what to do in my own private life, especially if I'm threatened with my working life being made difficult, for the sake of some sick individual who's got nothing better to do than mind other people's business. It's outrageous.

PantyFanatic

06-08-2007, 01:54 AM

Document! Document every detail and file it away while you sharpen your sword. :cool:

GreenChef

06-08-2007, 02:13 AM

I agree with you 100% Lou, but sometimes politics happen when you're not looking, and unfortunately, you don't have a case to argue, there is no case because it didn't happen, if you talk about it, It's you is imagining/creating, this thing that isn't there, and it only gets worse from there... Because if yuo ever confront such a person, none of this is/can/could/would/does happen, (but in fact it can be right there between the lines), and these people are masters of that, doing but not doing... unfortunately sometimes it just happens like it or not. The wrong people sometimes know how to cause problems without it ever happening...

"you just imagined all of that, don't be so paranoid"

Well Said PF I agree

p.s. ... WildIrish ... I know you are, but I'm sure you know how to act when it is called for...

WildIrish

06-08-2007, 08:47 AM

p.s. ... WildIrish ... I know you are, but I'm sure you know how to act when it is called for...

I usually reserve those precious few moments of good behavior for my own job. :p

Shadozfire

06-09-2007, 12:26 PM

Lou--I agree that it is unacceptable, however, it is a reality. Until we can get rid of the particular individual that holds the power, we are stuck doing as she wishes. I am not the only single woman in the department that is scrambling to find a date.

GC-She is a master at doing and saying nothing that at the same time ruins a career and/or makes a job Hell. I am oh so happy that I do not possess that skill, but would love to use it just one time on her.

WI--Good behavior and you??? Oxymoron??

scotzoidman

06-10-2007, 12:07 AM

I can easily understand the kind of asshole that slithers their way to power, just to enjoy the trauma they inflict on the lives of others who wish nothing more than gainful employment (& maybe a little respect)...meanwhile, follow PF's directive, and be ready to tip the scales against her when the time is right...Kharma has a way of hoisting folks on their own pitard eventually...

txgrneyes

06-10-2007, 01:08 PM

I know this is going to be just way out there...but how about finding an escort service? Being in Houston there should be one or two. Hey it worked out in the "Wedding Date" with Debra Messing.

Or if you have a married couple that you are good friends with. Ask her and him if you can borrow him. Strictly business no funny business. Make sure they have a real secure relationship so no fighting would take place.

Or just go on your own.

Not sure what I would do in that situation.

Shadozfire

06-10-2007, 10:13 PM

Scotz--Oh I am more than ready to tip the scales on her!! Karma is definitely on its way to her!

Tx-Escort service?? So funny that you said that....my dad suggested that LMAO!!! Though, I do not think he understands what all is involved with that type of service (possibly) LOL. I am at this point just going to go by myself just to piss her off. However, should a date come a long........

LixyChick

06-12-2007, 04:44 AM

I really am so perplexed by this.

What in the world could be the reason for wanting everyone to be hooked up with someone? Is she testing your sexual preferences? Is she anti-gay or something? In your initial post you said he has to look good and own a suit. Does she want her pick of men to "steal"? I just don't get the significance of being in a relationship and how that enhances your work ethics and skills!!!???? And further...I don't get how parading an S/O around at a social event can make for a better workplace!!!??? Does everyone at your workplace just accept this behavior?

Maybe I'm a dumbass but I need this spelled out for me. What's the point??????

Shadozfire

06-13-2007, 07:14 PM

Lixy--I do not get it either. :banghead: I also agree that if the guy is less than stellar, that it could hurt me more. I did make it official today that I will NOT be taking a date.......

CunningLinguist

06-14-2007, 09:30 PM

Oh damn. I'm only two hours away in Beaumont, and I've lived in Texas all my life, and never heard of a work situation where you had to bring a date. Then again, it's been years since I've worked in a professional setting so maybe things are different now?

Of course, I would be a poor choice since I am a complete stranger, and I've never been to a cocktail party so I would have no idea about the protocol for such situations.

Plus, you did stipulate that you needed someone handsome, and well, let's just say witty conversation is my strong point.

Though, I would have no idea why an attractive woman would have any problem finding a date even as a small favor in a city as large as Houston.

I wish I would have known sooner. I could have looked around for you.

Edit: Oh and I recognize the irony in my signature.

CunningLinguist

06-14-2007, 09:35 PM

I really am so perplexed by this.

What in the world could be the reason for wanting everyone to be hooked up with someone? Is she testing your sexual preferences? Is she anti-gay or something?

You know, I do know a guy who was fired from his job for being gay. Even said so on his pink slip. God Bless the American South!

I just thank the gods I don't have to deal with this at my job. I made the choice to not date anymore, and it's pretty sad that even in 2007 when a person hears that a man is a 28 y/o confirmed bachelor they automatically assume gay.

Shadozfire

06-16-2007, 07:43 PM

Tonight is the dinner and I did not go. I get to use the wonderful excuse of heavy rain and thunderstorms! No way am I going to get out with the possibility of flash floods! If I catch Hell, I catch Hell.

CunningLinguist

06-17-2007, 01:38 AM

I don't blame you. It really was one of those you'd have to be an idiot to drive in this kind of weather.

Though the more I think about your boss's inane requests to bring a handsome man to a cocktail party and threaten you with "bad for your career" if you don't just sounds too creepy.

It's pretty sad when the best case scenario I can think of is maybe this was a "car key" party?

And yeah, booze + co-workers is always a bad combination.

Shadozfire

06-17-2007, 04:20 PM

There are definitely a few of my co-workers I would love to see after a few drinks....

CunningLinguist

06-17-2007, 07:36 PM

You know for the first time I'm in an all male workplace.

And since most of them are missing teeth, I see them all sweaty and grimy after working, and I'm 100% heterosexual, I can say that there is no one at work I'd fool around with.

First time it's ever happened in my life.

Maybe I'm growing up... :thumb:

Shadozfire

06-17-2007, 07:51 PM

Wow and I work with mostly women....I would trade ya but that whole sweaty and toothless part pretty much turned me off lol.....

Booger

06-17-2007, 10:35 PM

Wow and I work with mostly women....I would trade ya but that whole sweaty and toothless part pretty much turned me off lol.....

What sweaty and toothless dosen't turn you on?

Shadozfire

06-18-2007, 02:31 PM

Can't say that it does much for me. You?

Booger

06-18-2007, 02:43 PM

I don't know something about a toothless blow job has always intrigued me.

CunningLinguist

06-18-2007, 04:07 PM

Wow and I work with mostly women....I would trade ya but that whole sweaty and toothless part pretty much turned me off lol.....

Oh the sweat isn't the worst part. It's the fact that it's fiberglass is even worse.

Well, don't worry. I got all my teeth. Yeah let's totally trade! I'll come out the winner!

CunningLinguist

06-18-2007, 04:08 PM

I don't know something about a toothless blow job has always intrigued me.

Yes, but a toothless guy couldn't gently nibble on her clit or her nipple.

Shadozfire

06-18-2007, 04:11 PM

.....what CL said! "Yes, but a toothless guy couldn't gently nibble on her clit or her nipple."

Oh and booger...i am sure when your honey is 70 you will get to find out what a toothless blow job is like!!! LOL.

Aqua

06-18-2007, 04:35 PM

Shadozfire

06-18-2007, 04:42 PM

Or he could go to any truck stop in the US and pick up a lot lizard....see Booger there are options out there for ya!

Scarecrow

06-18-2007, 07:45 PM

Yes, but a toothless guy couldn't gently nibble on her clit or her nipple.

Do you to bet on that? LOL

Shadozfire

06-18-2007, 07:46 PM

It would probably be more like gentle gumming......

sodaklostsoul

06-18-2007, 10:47 PM

Or he could go to any truck stop in the US and pick up a lot lizard....see Booger there are options out there for ya!
Excuse me!!!!!!

[Oh and booger...i am sure when your honey is 70 you will get to find out what a toothless blow job is like!!! LOL]

Since I've got PMS really bad right now, I've decided to walk away from this thread before I really type what I want to say which isn't nice.

CaliDreamin

06-19-2007, 08:21 AM

I can't believe there are 4 pages in this thread. If this is your only problem in life you really don't have any!

I would hate to see a REAL issue in your life! I also don't understand one thing - you go from one extreme to another. If these are god complex surgeons on one hand how are they backwards southerners the next? That seems like a contradiction and certainly an insult to one or both groups.

It really seems like a lot of nothing considering all the real problems in the world.

osuche

06-19-2007, 10:28 AM

OK, CaliDreamin....you're certainly entitled to your opinion, but in general flaming is not how we operate on Pixies.

It can be very difficult being a single woman - especially a single woman over 25 - and dealing with the social issues of who to bring to a party when everyone else you know is married. It's emotionally stressful.

At no time did any of us attempt to compare the situation to solving world hunger (in terms of order of magnitude). However, Shadozfire asked for suggestions and we gave them to her. That's what Pixies is about - being friendly and helpful.

Aqua

06-19-2007, 12:12 PM

There are many advice threads here that 'are nothing considering all the problems in the real world'. But they are real problems in each of are own worlds. SF has been living in Texas for only a short time and was told she needed to be at this event and she needed to have a respectable date. It's bad enough trying to meet new people and make new friends... then your boss demands you bring a date to a work function. :huh:

Anyway, as osuche said, Pixies is about being friendly and helpful.

Oh, and sexy. Let's not forget about that. :D

Loulabelle

06-19-2007, 01:57 PM

((((((((((((((Aqua and Osuche)))))))))))))

I'd just like to add that scary outmoded sexist bullshit in the work place IS a pretty big issue. If there were REAL sexual equality across the world, who knows how fewer REAL problems there'd be. If women were more respected, and their opinions and suggestions heeded perhaps there would be less war, fewer rapists, less child abuse, fewer car accidents, no honour killings within certain cultures etc etc.

Get my point?

Oh and if you're here to talk about serious issues, I suggest you stay out of the general chat, general sex talk, smut games, pictures of women, pictures of men, pictures of couples, requests and all stories threads. Was it not made clear to you that this is a sex site when you joined?

Aqua

06-19-2007, 02:04 PM

Very good point Lou. :molest:

jseal

06-19-2007, 02:07 PM

... and a whole lot more!

Bicycles - Advice Please (http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?t=27852)

Baggage checking (http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?t=30941)

Wisdom tooth post-op ???? (http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?t=30731)

New Computer...Is This A Good Deal? (http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/showthread.php?t=30453)

CunningLinguist

06-19-2007, 04:27 PM

Wow and I thought I was an asshole?

Ok, seriously, the title of the thread isn't like "Help, I'm Lonely and Men all Avoid me or Ignore me!"

No, It has to do with the phenomenon in Southern Culture that is arrogant, classist, and sexist.

Of course, if he bothered to read the first post, he would find out that the real problem has to do with work.

I've lived in Texas all my life, and I managed to not get my panties in a knot over the "backwards southerners" comments becuase I know I ain't one.

And finally, one could be an accomplished surgeon, lawyer, scientist, etc. and still come across as an ignorant redneck.

Shadozfire

06-19-2007, 06:39 PM

Wow, did I stir up a hornet's nest or what?

(((Soda)))--I am sorry hon, it was not meant seriously and I hope that you can accept my apology.

Cali--If something jeapordizes my job or career, then yes, to me it is serious. I see that you are new to the site and let the rest of your rant go, but please know in the future that Pixies are a family and as such we get to inundate each other with our problems (no matter how small or trvial they seem to others) in hopes that one of the family members can help make sense out of it.....

Osuche--Thanks hon!!

Aqua--VERY SEXY INDEED!

Lou--AMEN SISTER!!! From you lips to the Texan's ears!

Jseal--You forgot to include my thread where I wanted ideas about new sex toys that ONLY had TWO pages of responses!!! What is up with that??? LOL Cuz you know that is a REAL problem when you can't decide which toy to buy next!!

CL--No you ain't a backwards southerner! ;)

Thank you all for your support!!!!! :x: (((PIXIES))) :x:

CunningLinguist

06-19-2007, 06:47 PM

CL--No you ain't a backwards southerner! ;)

Thanks. It's one more reason I'm moving to Austin aka East California.

jseal

06-19-2007, 06:49 PM

... you know that is a REAL problem when you can't decide which toy to buy next!! ...
Shadozfire,

Yesm! Too true!

Shadozfire

06-19-2007, 06:54 PM

CL--I know why you want to go to Austin..........Home to Sandra Bullock though Jessie might kick your butt.

Jseal--Especially anal toys......Fun Fun Fun FUN!

Shadozfire

06-19-2007, 07:09 PM

Oh yeah----I forgot to tell you guys what the end result of me not going was (DUH)----I am on indefinite silent treatment from her. Better than the alternative, but with her it is scary as you do not know when she is going to get you with of the snakes on her head!

CunningLinguist

06-19-2007, 07:10 PM

I had no idea she was from Austin, and I'm like one of those people who goes "You know Paul Wall is from Houston right?" and this is the Mexican Restaurant ZZ Top sang about.

Though yes, pretty girls were a reason though. :-P

Shadozfire

06-19-2007, 07:30 PM

CL--Just trying to be helpful!

Aqua

06-19-2007, 07:49 PM