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you will never belive what has happened to me!!!


Backround:

I met Adam on an online personals website. (yea lavalife!!!!! Thank you soooo much) We started dating and fell in love. Our first date lasted over 6 hours as did the second and third..... Soon we were going out 5 out of 7 days. This posed several problems for us. We live an hour apart and Adam wasn't getting home til 3am and has to get up at 5:30. He was dog tired. I decided to go up to cook him dinner one night and had a great time. Then, I came up 2 days later and somehow never left. That was at our 1 month mark. then a month ago...
At the 4 month mark Adam dropped a huge bomb. I can't say I didnt see it coming but still i was shocked. He told me that he hasn't been happy for a couple weeks and thought he needed some space. He said we are not working out, but I didnt want to believe it. I cried and cried. He wanted me to move out!!!!! A week goes by and Iam a total wreck! Shaking like a leaf and emotional. Felt like I was starting to fall into this deep dark black pit with no bottom and no way out. We didn't really talk about it at all the next few days. Adam was sleeping on the couch and I was alone in our bed. I was lonely and miserable. His mom and step dad were coming to visit that next weekend. We had a reasonably good visit but we still had an elephant in the living room that no one was talking about. We all knew it was there but didnt want to disturb it. On top of everything else I was 2 weeks late with my period. (Great luck.) Accidently told his mom about being late and how scared i was. (hadnt told adam yet.) We talked and she helped us set an apointment with a free clinic. Turns out im not pregnant. (whew, big sigh) Still havent started my period though... Grrrr I'll be a month late on he 6th of october..... Hoping im not one of the lucky 1% that the test misses.

Story:
Ok now onto the good stuff. I went into an independant pet store to look around and ran into my best friend from hughschool we hadnt seen each other in 5 years. It was like we had never parted. We hung out for the next few daysI invited kaytee ( the best friend) and zeke (her hubby)over for dinner. Adam was being all lovey dovey all of a sudden and the man hasn't kissed har d for a month. I turned to Jello. We kept kissing the while time and I was in heaven. Then later he said we need to talk. He whispered to me that he doesn't want me to leaveanymore!!!!!!!!!! I leaped up and ran to call mom and tell her. I grabbed Kaytee and took her to the bedroom for girl talk. I told her and we started jumping up and down and hugged fiercely. After Kaytee and Zeke left, Adam and I cuddled on the couch and kissed. I started running my hands all over his body. He pushed my hand to his groin like he wanted to be caressed. I then went down on him with a fervor I have never done. After he came, we cuddled again. Then, he started caressing my breasts and said how much he missed "them" (I am rather heavy chested) Then he caressed me and made me cum. It was the best orgasm I have ever had. Then he went to bed. He is still sleeping on the couch. But only til he gets used to us again. In a few days we will be back to the same old relationship. I am so happy. I hope everthing works out for us. I am waiting to spend the rest of my lifetimes with him.

Aww :)
I hope everythings works out :)

*hugs*

Good luck to you and Adam. I hope all goes well from here on for you both. :)

thanks u 2

what does everyone one else think???

Dunno about everyone else....but I wish you the very best of luck and I hope this works out the way you want it to.

But (you knew that was coming didn't you? Damn I hate being predictable) I'm helping a friend extract herself from a 2 year relatioinship at the moment, so I'm in a real "go slow, be cautious" state of mind. While I hope down to my toes that this works for you, and I think there's every chance it will....I'd advise you be careful and not let yourself get too sure it will, just to protect your heart a little...cause I don't think you're necessarily at the finish line yet. And if you didn't like that, or are mad at me for saying it...stop reading.

Why? Cause I've got 4 brothers, and I've watched three of them do this to girls. And wanted to beat them bloody each and every time. Maybe it's just my family (and, ironically, the guy my fried is breaking up with) but sometimes they do this. "I'm not sure I want to be with you," and pulling away for weeks or months...then all of a sudden, for no reason the girl in question understands, they "made a horrible mistake," "miss you terribly," and "want you back." For a few weeks, maybe a month or so. What my brothers were doing when they pulled this stunt was just being bloody indecisive, and not being careful about how it impacted the people they were jerking around. They weren't happy, or were terrified of commitment. They didn't know what to do about it, so they'd break up with the girl. Since the fear was mostly in their heads, she never saw it coming. Then they missed her, got lonely, or (in the one case where I got REALLY angry) got bored when nothing better came along right away. They went back to what they knew was comfortable. The girls never knew what was wrong in the first place, so didn't know it hadn't been fixed permanently. They were thrilled that my brother(s) had gotten over their flit...and assumed everything was fine. It never took more than a month and a half for the boys to get back to whatever fear or frustration they'd used as their reason to leave the first time....and they dropped the girls again. Once, I was good friends with the girlfriend, and she was much more cut up about the second dump than the first.

I'm in no way saying that's what Adam (hope I got the name right) is doing. Even if he is, I don't think it's necessarily going to all fall apart...and I certainly don't think he's doing it intentionally. It's just that those sudden "turn on a dime" changes sound awfully familiar. But I don't know your life, I don't know your relationship, and I don't have a crystal ball. I just always thought that if the girls my brothers (whom I really do love....I just wouldn't have let my friends date them when they were younger) had been a bit more careful, they could've saved themselves some heartbreak...and maybe even helped the guys talk about what was really wrong instead of pretending it didn't exist any more.

I really do hope it all comes good for you, I hate being a doomsayer...but you did ask. I can't help thinking you might've been looking for a devil's advocate, just a little. Serious appologies if this was a buzz-kill that pisses you off. Take comfort in that it really is just:

my 2cents.

Ginge

Faerysflower, good luck to you.

ty db

I am sort of with GingerV on this one faerysflower, You know basically guys don't know what they want. However they do know what they crave.
The thing is you have to have what I call a conversational relationship where you see "eye-to-eye" on core values. Ask yourself is this...could this be my bestfriend or is he just a really good boyfriend?
Simply "speaking in tounges" together and having a chemical understanding is not going to do it in the long haul.
Be the person who you want to be. Try not to change yourself for this guy to simply accomodate your need to be wanted. Otherwise the pain you feel will be double and the selfdoubt will deepen.
To give your guy some slack is one thing, to be used to fill his need for affection is another.

I'm glad you're back together, too, but I'd be wary, like GingerV and south suggest. Keep the lines of communication open - find out why he pulled away in the first place . . . good luck, faerysflower :)

thanks all
we are talkin more than ever before.... i appriciate the honesty. i will tell u all the new developements as they occur. he he i sound like a news anchor....

I wish you all the best! Just be sure to do ALOT of talking with this guy to be sure you know what is up between you two and why did what he did.

faerysflower,

Keep your fingers crossed and be cautious.

Good luck!

good luck hun take it slow tho, i wish u the best of luck adn hope w all my heart ur lifes go the way u want them to

awwwwwwww i hope things work out for you both u seem to be happy together. I think possibly when he told u he didnt want to be with u anynmore it was possibly cause youd moved to fast with the moving in together thing and he kind of felt a bit overpowered by all that was happening and so it kind of freaked him out a bit. I really really hope things work out for you both though. Keep everyone updated on hpw things go for u both and all the very best for the futurexxxxxxx

Wow this was a long time ago but a wile after she posted this, we meet online fell in love but did not want to say anything to each other. After 6 months or so of talking and video chatting and a lot of sexy talk I had to leave the online scene to take care of some personal things in my life and left with out saying good bye. (Witch to this day I feel like a ass). I felt after a wile I needed to try to find her and let her know how I felt but was not able to find her, it brook my heart to know how I felt and not have told her. I made the move to start driving truck to try to find her (long shot I know). Long story short almost 11 years later I seen her at the current place we work and my heart skipped a beat I keep quite and to my self due to not knowing if she even knew who I was. All I know is the rush of feeling came over me and it was not easy to contain my composure, But I did.We talked a little bit and she did not know me from Adam (haha play on words) and it was not easy to let her leave with her ex that she was with at the time. But once again fate brought us back in to each others life again, And I was not going to let her get away. And once again I seen her at the yard (Freymiller). And she gave me my go ahead to get her out, and so I did ( long story I will not get into right now) after a few weeks later she is now in my truck and we are going across the country and I'm enjoying every min of it. Now there was a lot I did not say but I'm not one to write, as the reason my grammar sucks lol. That is the rest of the story haha

What he fails to mention is that my ex was an abusive asshole. He was and is my knight in shining armor. He rode in in his red Peterbilt and rescued me. At the time, I was not aware of who he was to me 11 years ago. Didn't find that out til almost 2 weeks later.


I love him with all my heart, mind, soul and everything that I am. I thank God everyday for the chance to meet up with him again. Let alone the opportunity to re-fall in love with him. I must of have done something really good in a previous life to deserve him. Most of the time I don't think that I am good enough for him. Fate and karma must have been on my side this time. That is the REST of the story.

Congrats and good luck with your life together.

Wow!! What a beautiful love story. Thank you both for sharing.

Good luck to both of you! Hope the rest of your lives will be filled with each other's love.

faerysflower,

:thumbs:

Thanks guys and gal's we are very happy together and looking forward to many years together.

Best of everything!

Well that wasn't in the story.. After being together until August 2015, we begin the having financial difficulties and I went to stay with my grandmother for the summer. Things were OK we were talking all the time. It was hard to be apart. He began to get caught up financially, on September 3 I flew back to South Bend Indiana. Things were great it was wonderful.

Then the other shoe dropped. Apparently a bartender at a bar we both frequented caught his fancy. Instead of being honest and telling me exactly what was going on... He told me that financially it was too tight to support 2 ppl on the truck.


I made a few calls to the SAME best friend mentioned previously. I have been staying with her in my hometown since November 12th 2015.

I remained celibate for 6 months. During this time frame of depression and hurt. I started to get to know who Faerysflower is. I'm learning to listen to what I want and not what my flavor of the whenever wants.


More to come. Tired of typing on little phone

hugs! (((faerysflower)))

Sorry to hear of your sadness.

((((faerysflower)))))

In many ways have I known the same pain. So some words to give you hope and empower you faeryflower.....

The Willow knows what the storm does not; that power to endure harm out lives the power to inflict it.

And another wise words not overly quoted by me,

Tis when a heart beats in a fever one seems to feel alive, yet when one is broken all seems lost. Yet does your heart still not beat? For this means you are alive without the burdens of pain or sorrow. Tarry not long on despair for you are destined for greater.

And the story goes on...
 

Well a bit of time has passed and again the situation has changed yet again. I got myself into quite a bind, and my knight in shining armor comes to the rescue again. I am living in his house in Indiana. His current girlfriend and I are like twins. He finally had some good taste in women when he chose her. They are perfect together. I couldn't be happier for him. If I couldn't be his unicorn, at least I love the woman who is.

What a great attitude. Way to go faerysflower! :)