what would you do?
 

I've been married for 5 yrs (together 9 yrs and second marriage for both). We have a great sex life, but I love getting on the internet and doing the cyber thing. I feel like I;m cheating but then again I love to masterbate and talk and read dirty things. I have not done the web cam yet but am thinking about it. He would join me in a heart beat but I really don't want him too, at least not yet. So do I go about doing what I want or should I not? HELP

Well this is just an opinion and you can take is as that but if my wife was doing those things without my knowledge it would be the same as cheating to me. Consentual fooling around is one thing...im all for that =) Having it done behind my back though is the same as cheating in my eyes. Thats a decision you will have to make on your own =)

Just an opinion. I think a lot depends on how you feel about it. If you feel guilty about it, then it probably is. For myself, I don't feel guilty because i know that it's just fantasy and so for me ... it's not.

I'd reconsider involving your husband. Might be a fun thing for the two of you to share. I really wish my wife would join me here at Pixies.

She doesn't object to Pixies, just not a big computer fan. I just think the two of us could really enjoy our time here together.

If your sex life is great, why don't you ask him about cybering? (what db said :) )

if it feels like cheating to you ~~~~then I guess it is!

Sounds to me like you are already doing what you want and want the blessings to make yourself feel better about it. Sorry to be so blunt but you asked and I don't lie.

If you need reassurance and a comfirmation that it's ok......you should talk to your hubby about your feelings and fantasies. He might even agree that this is all in fun and no harm no foul.......and he might want to venture into it on his own as well. Are you ready for "what's good for the goose is good for the gander"?

From your pic posting threads........I'd say he's a rather open guy.....and you might just be jeopardizing this openess with your secrets! On the other hand......you know him best...and if you can live with yourself (you seem like you might be feeling guilty) and it really won't harm what you've built with your hubby.......keep it to yourself and just don't get all wrapped up in it to the point of wrecking a perfectly good marriage!

Best of luck hun! Hope this helps a bit! And.....Welcum to Pixies if I haven't said it already!

To much of the internet porn site are there for people to masturbate to.Although we all do it sometimes,it still seems like a lonely act to me.If you have somebody to share the sites with and especially if you are considring the web cam thing,by all means, have your hubby join in.Become that lusty,sexxxxxy,unforgetable duo on the net.

you all are great. thank you for your honesty. Although I haven't done anything nor have I talk to hubby, but I do promise to let you know what happens.

TELL...Betcha he will get REALLY hot. He might not like the cam thing though....

What Lixy said! She just saved me typing a ten page essay to you LOL :)
She said it all!

Good luck, let us know the outcome!
CasperTG

Try things like sending him dirty emails or messages. (if you have 2 computers) Maybe even try writing dirty letters or stories and giving them to him and asking for a response. Theer are ways to involve your partner in what you like without going behind his back.