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Iam now single again after a big blow out argument ok first I have told my friends that we had a fight and just split up. Now the real truth is when we
Were fighting he hit me just a slap with the back of his hand the I was in shock he immediately said he was sorry to witch I responded that no it was my fault for getting him angry before you all yell at me the next second I realised
What the hell a was saying and told him to leave what scared me most was not him hitting me but my reaction I realised I could have ended up in a abusive relationship
i thought i was smater than this and this has scared the hell out of me

(((Axe)))
That is scary, but you did realize what you were saying and you told him to leave. Good for you. It is not uncommon to blurt out something you don't mean in a heated moment and it seems that is what happened. I am sorry to hear that your relationship is over... better over than being an abusive one though.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) im so glad u found strength to get out NOW instead of staying !! U ROCK!!! i know breakups are hard but im really glad u didnt wait.

~nikki

If they hit you just one time they will do it again. It just gets worse. He needs to learn to control his anger. There is NO excuse! You did the right thing. Stay the hell away from him. He's trouble.

Proud of you!

So glad to hear that your homosapien characteristics managed to prevail. :)

It’s the fact that intellect can override instinct that separates us from the other animals……….some of the time. ;)

Don't make me come bust him upside his ass:D

(((Axe))) often times a responsible type person's gut reaction is that they fostered the situation. You recognized quickly that this was his problem and did not have to be yours. You made yourself clear. Violence will not be tolerated, period.

don't mean to bump an awful memory ((axe)), just want to add my support to the others'. and don't think you're crazy, or stupid, or blind. to immediately say 'it's ok' when someone tells you they're sorry is just a knee-jerk reaction...those manners our parents drilled into our heads. you did the right thing, of course.

((((((((((((((((axe)))))))))))))

pleased that you made a wise choice, violence is unacceptable.

sorry for your heartache but pleased you will be safe from it in future

best to you buddy

You did it exactly right, axe. Absolutely perfect. We can't say that no man will ever hit us, potential abusers don't come with signs on their foreheads, but we can say that no man will do it twice.

I'm sure he regrets his action, and wanting to take away his pain by taking responsibility is totally normal. It's almost unavoidable if you have any degree of abuse in your personal history. It's bad training in one sense, but it's a survival trick in another way. Taking responsibility may have helped defuse the immediate situation. I don't know, and it doesn't matter.

What does matter is that you recongized it. You saw the pattern developing, and you took the steps you had to do. It sounds like you did it in cold blood, after everything calmed down a little. That's best, but sometimes hardest. Don't kick yourself for getting involved with him, don't kick yourself for not trying to throw him out immediately. Instead, give yourself a big damned hug for loving yourself to do this, and then give yourself another one from me. I'm sorry you had to do it, but oh so glad you had the strength.

G

Axe,

I've put my fist through a door rather than hit my ex-wife at a time of stress.

There is no excuse for violence, nor excuse for putting up with it.

Live better, love better.

(((((((((((((axe31)))))))))))))))

axe31,


Better now than later. Wisely done.

OK, here's some very rudimentary arithmetic:

Let's assume the population of Manchester is 3,500,000 (probably way out but it'll do for these purposes)
Roughly (er.. let's avoid that word...) approximately half of those are male - that's 1,750,000
About half the males might be aged between 20 and 50 - 875,000
Let's assume that nine out of ten of these are married or happily shacked up - leaving 87,500.
Take away from these the arsehole who tried to beat you up...

That means that within your lovely city there are 87,499 men available to you. Happy hunting!