I don't take this personal. My ex tried to MAKE me feel this way but it didn't work. This is about MY needs, ME trying to express myself, NOT about LOVE. Love is what I felt for my husband. Not my sexual partners.

I think every couple has the right to decide what sort of relationship they want to have..... what they want and don't want, can and can't handle, what the boundaries are and how and when and IF they should expand. I think as each couple decides these things and feels happy and settled with their choices, that those choices should be respected by everyone else. In other words, no judging the other guy. We're all entitled to have the kind of relationship that works FOR US, not for someone else.

That being said... while I have zero problem with someone who practices an open marriage lifestyle, I myself could not do so. I'm simply not "built" that way, that's all there is to it.

To each his own. I'm entitled to my choices, and you're entitled to yours. More power to us both.

I think it is paramount that partners are comfortable and open-eyed about the behavior they practice. Indeed, many people connect and develop very serious emotions out of intimacy. This can certainly threaten an existing relationship regardless of the original intentions in an attempt at swinging.

And conversely, others can separate sexual behaviour from love. We are all different and should express ourselves accordingly. Someone who has insecurity, has no business being in an open marriage whether there S/O does or not.

Be true to thine own self.