Body Image
 

Do you have a good body image or a bad body image? How does this affect your sex life? Does your partner help make your body image better or worse? In what ways?

WOW!!!! Excellent 1st post!

Welcome!

I have body image issues but when I see how much pleasure my guy gets from my body it certainly makes me feel better. When you look into someone's eyes filled with desire and longing it is easy to see a beautiful reflection.

Welcum to Pixies Michael Smith (if that's really your name....LMAO!......jk hun!)!

I agree with Lilith! Excellent first post!

Yes, I do have issues with my body image. If I could change a few things I would, (but I can't justify the cost of surgery as I have money issues too!) I'd add a little here and take away a little there....lift a couple of things (teehee) and tighten alot of it up. But with excercise and a good diet I can do most of these things too, so I opt for that route!

Yep. Michael Smith. That's my real name! :) Thank you, ladies, for the nice welcome and the kind words. I'm new to this forum, but it looks like it could quickly become one of my favorites!

Thank you for your replies. They were very informational. The reason I asked the question is because of something I read where a woman asked, "How can I feel sexy in the bedroom when I can't even accept myself as attractive." Here is my take on the subject of body image, from a man's point of view. Please let me know if you agree.

Most men are so happy to be in bed with you, they really aren’t looking for all of your flaws. We all have them. That’s what makes us all unique and gives us character. Is your man the perfect specimen? Probably not. But you accept him, flaws and all, right? I’ll bet he does the same for you. If he doesn’t, you are with the wrong man. Learning to relax during lovemaking is essential. You will enjoy it so much more. In fact, in a U.S. survey, women with a positive body image had orgasms 73% of the time. Self-conscious women only reached orgasm 42% of the time. Sex is not only about what’s happening on the outside, but also very much about what’s happening on the inside. If you are busy worrying about whether your breasts are drooping a little bit or you are trying to suck in your stomach so those extra 5 pounds you gained won’t show, then you aren’t focusing on what you should be focusing on. It only makes sense that your sex life will suffer. A good lover is a confident lover. Feel like you are sexy, and you will be. Your man already thinks you are sexy. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be making love with you.

So, that's my take on it. So far, I've discovered that a lot of women seem to have negative body images, but it doesn't seem to affect them if their man is kind, loving, and non-judgmental. Very interesting!

It's also interesting to note that, according to one survey, 75% of women thought they were "too fat". I wonder how much that has to do with the media and the fact that they love to flash ultra skinny model types in front of us everywhere - billboards, television, magazine ads, etc... These aren't "average" women. 68 percent of American women wear a size 12 or above. Those are the real average women.

Anyway, that's what I have learned so far. Anyone else wish to add anything to the discussion?

Is there anything else that CAN be added??? Michael, welcome to Pixies - you've just summed it up so eloquently I don't think I can improve on it!

Certainly glad to have you on board, you seem like a very intelligent person!

Welcome!

CasperTG

Michael, Great post. I think everything you said is right on. I remember I was 19 years old before I learned they airbrushed photographs in magaizes to hide any "flaws". Before that I worked out all the time and couldn't figure out why my body didn't look like that. It was a huge weight off my shoulders. Occasionally still, I can have off days where I look in the mirror and see that I don't add up to that perfect media image. My hips are rounder, I have a little belly. And yet I look around at my friends, co workers, the women in the locker room at the gym and most of them don't "add up" to that image. Maybe it is time to change that image....bring back Marilyn Monroe!

Thank you, Casper, for the kind words and the welcome. I'm glad to be here. I look forward to taking it all in and learning all I can from you folks! :)

Welcome Michael Smith this is one of the best sites that I have ever run across. I hope that you will feel the same, or atleast enjoy your self here. As to your post, I couldn't agree more!

Welcome to Pixies Place, Michael Smith. Very interesting post, very informative. Hope you enjoy your stay at Pixies!

Welcome to Pixies.

As far as your post it was a real eye opener. I also have body image issues, but I believe everybody does, after all no one is perfect. But I try not to bring the issues to the bed room. If I have successfully led them to the bedroom then apparently the issue dont matter otherwise they would not want to be there. You really cant force a person to go to bed with you if he does not find you attractive. Now there are exceptions to this statement but I am talking in general.

Wow i posted a body image thread quite a while ago..i guess i didn't post it in the right place.

I consider myself an intelligent person but whenever I read a Cosmo mag, I always feel like I don't have a great body. Even though I know the images are airbrushed to perfection, I have to remind myself that the models in the magazine are not the norm.

I agree, bring back Marilyn Monroe!

Welcome to Pixies Michael! I think everyone has something(s) about their body they'd like to change.. but I agree that 99% of these feelings are solely due to media insistence that "Skinny is best" or "Muscly is what women want", depending on the ad!!

I have been in relationships with women of lots of different shapes/sizes... and I was with all of them in spite of their "flaws", as they saw them; I always believed it was what is inside that makes someone attractive, and that just gets stronger as the years whiz by! Some of the sexiest women in the world those who are pregnant, IMHO!!

I turned 41 last week, and things are starting to head south/get bigger; it's just part of getting older I guess! I moan occasionally (jokily....usually LOL) about getting a bit of a pot-belly... and Celticangel just tells me to shut up, cos she loves me for who I am, not what I look like! That'll be me told, then!!

I also think that sites like this maybe help some people "get over" any issues they have with either themselves or others size/shape/flaws .. whatever. Every type of woman imaginable has posted pics here, and every single one of them is very sexy.. and that comes from inside, not the outside!

[Enough DM; you had your say, now sod off!!]



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DM

Welcome Michael!
Like most folk my body image isn't all that great--------but now at 36yrs I feel more like "me" than ever before (deep huh?!!). Last year I lost Too much weight--------due to emotional trauma etc-------but didn't feel any different to when I was 12 stone(post baby!)
Still a bit too scrawny---but mentally much stronger now. Have accepted myself---scars and all---------and that is a big step forward!-----------still have low days------but not so often!
Dm is a honey!xxx