When a FWB....
 

Naturally I'd come here to chat w/ my lovely pixie pals...I'm usually good at this but some advice and an unbias opinion would be greatly appreciated! Sorry in advance for typing a novel but I need to give you background lol.

Back in Feb/March last year, I was rebounding from ending it with my husband. I hooked up on POF a lot....then with a guy who was fun, we got together a few times but I treated him as just a piece of meat lol and felt I was likewise, which was totally fine. I started dating someone in April and was thinking I was head over heels, other guy would still text me maybe once monthly just to see how I was, just being friendly. I'd ignore it, or I'd say something short back, no biggie.

Last month my bf and I took a break, other guy texted me out of the blue because he was nearby saying he'd thought of me and I was like 'well hello!..." and hooked up with him again. I come to find out he wanted to be friends too back when, but just hadn't told me so I had moved on, the sex was an added bonus but if there wasn't sex he just genuinely still wanted to be a part of my life as just a friend. Floored, I was like okay sure, who can have enough friends? The last month, we talk all day everyday via text and will on the phone. Last week I saw him probably 4-5 times out of the week, not all of these meetings were for sex.

I was offered physical and emotional support and even cash when I thought my power was going to be turned off, with the understanding I couldn't pay back and it wasn't in exchange for sex, purely selfless. I don't ask for help and he got it out of me that I was in a bind and just wanted to help. We have both stood by our phrase "we are fuckable, not dateable" to each other, but as you guessed it, while talking about my bf and that I don't know why I still carry on with him because he's been shitty, other says he likes me, not the first time but goes on to say he'll do anything to be with me on a higher level if it was what I wanted because it is what he wants.

NOT SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN.

But it has, I believe I like him too, more than I'd let myself admit. I'm used to being hurt, being the one bending over backwards for someone, taking care of someone, but he wants to do that for me instead.

I am treated better than anyone has treated me before with him, yes only been a month but he is adamant to prove to me he is different, he's incredibly passionate and lets me just be me.

WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?

Thanks for reading :booty:

Sorry Lil, I thought I'd posted in the Advice section, feel free to move the post and/or spank me :fix:

I'll do both :x:

I was given my first sub collar today, I'll make sure I do what I'm told so I get practice LOL

Did you leave that part out of the story above?????

OK..... I'd say step out of your comfort zone and let someone spoil you for a bit. You deserve it! As you know, you will always take a risk of being hurt but then there is the chance of finding real happiness!

So go for it with eyes 7 heart open! Good luck! :sun:

Do what you want to. You're going to anyway.

To me, this falls under "pretty damn good problem to have," and the solution is pretty clear: get out of your own way, don't punish a new person for past people's sins, and enjoy. There is nothing without risk...not even staying walled up in your "I'm hurt, damaged, and undateable" fortress. That's as likely to mess you up as a romance that isn't forever. All you have is now, and right now, you have a guy who digs you and whom you dig. Try and see.

I agree, try it and see, but be alert for him becoming possessive. As the others have said, no risk - no gain.

If it gets too much, stand your ground and shut the gate.

Also, DON'T LET HIM MOVE IN FOR AT LEAST THREE MONTHS!!!!!!!

It sounds like you want to be with this guy. Follow your gut instinct. Life is to short to worry about making the right decision. Let it play out and see where it goes.