If curiousity killed the cat...then I think I am gonna die
 

Hello all. This is my first post. I guess you could call me a forum virgin. lol I am the Sumen part of BugnSumen. pronounced like sumthen. Anyway on to the topic at hand. I am a 29 year old female that is bicurious. The opportunity has never arisen where I might experiment but I am curious about it. There are many reasons I have never been able to experiment. I feel like if I do try it then I am cheating on my husband, although he says that "hell babe if it is with a woman and not a man it's cool." But I wonder will his feelings change after the event? I also have to admit that in some ways it scares the hell out of me being unchartered terrritory. Then there is the question that what if I enjoy it so much that I no longer want to be with men. there is also the jealousy issue.

Any thoughts, ideas, or advice would be more than welcome.

Sumen

I hear you!!!
 

I'm in total agreeance with you....although I am not in a relationship right at this moment...that was always a concern I had as well....the jealousy thing and will I like it soooo much that I wouldn't want to be with a man again (although highly doubtful as I love a hard cock :)

I just never seemed to be able to get around being only bi-curious!! No opportunity....Beside the fact that I live in a very VERY small town...I would have no idea on even how to meet like minded people.

Can I ask...have you ever been attracted to another woman? Or are you simply like me who just gets really REALLY hot hearing about two women getting it on or watching a porn movie and seeing two women doing each other?

I've never been real sure whether I would want to be a part of that or whether I'm just a voyeur!!!

Sorry I can't give you any advise :( but I'm sure someone on this board will be able to maybe help both of us out with some advice!!

Cheers, Gyz

Bicurious..
 

I'm completely in the same boat. I've been attracted to other women, and find myself fantasicing to some degree about being with one. My boyfriend says he has no problem incorperating another into our play, but a million things run through my head with the thought. Mainly my own insecurities, but I really fear that some insecurities would present themselves for him too. He's a wonderful man and I'd hate to do anything to jeopardize our relationship. At the sametime I'd love to make his and my fantasy come true... Oh to be able to look into the future before taking the plunge. Let me know if anyone else is coming from this place or has been here and can relate their own personal experiences.. good and bad.

Thanks,
Jenny

feel the same way
 

I feel the same way. My husband wouldn't mind it at all but yet i feel it might ruin my relationship w/him or i just might like it too much and leave him. It would be nice to have our fantasy come true. Although i have no advice for you guys i just wanted to say i am in the same boat

shy1

thanks for the reassurance
 

It's nice to see that there are others out there like me. That I am not the only one out there. I live in an extremely small town as well Gyzsmo and to answer your question a little of both I think. I think the first girl I ever felt attracted to was Joe from Facts of Life. lol! Can you believe that funny huh? Anyway I honestly think some day I would love to do it. My hubby swears that he wouldn't have a problem with it but what guy would? He has had three-somes before with 2 women and himself. So this isn't new to him. He has even agreed not to be involved in the occasion. He did ask that sooner or later we let him watch but hell I told him one thing at a time first I have to try it, Then I have to like it enogh to do it again. Anyway thanks everone for the support. Like I said it is nice to see others out there

Sumen

from a guys point of view
 

Yeah it is natural for a guy to want to be in a threesome with his lady love. I tried it with my ex wife once. She had all kinds of concerns about it. She thought I would be more attracted to the other woman and leave our marriage for her. She also had insecurities too, weight, attractiveness, inexperience, etc.
When she finally got the nerve built up tp try it I let her lead the way. I didn't suggest ant woman at all, I let her handle it. I only wanted a say in it was all. So when the night finally arrived, I found out it was a very good friend of mine that is bi-sexual and my ex felt totally comfortable with her. It was a great experience.
At first I didn't do anything, I just sat back and watched, which was an even bigger turn on for me, until they asked me to join them. I even told my ex that if she wanted me to just leave her alone with my that I would be okay with it too. I was grateful that they didn't ask to leave though. :)
But the only thing that I can say is to take it all slow. Feel out certain women that you get the vibe from. Hope my view point helps out some. If anyone wnats to know more, just PM me.

Thanks every little bit helps, Dunchad. I might take you up on the pm sometime.

Sumen

Thanks Dunchad the feedback is extremely helpful and I would enjoy hearing more from the men of the group about whether it's the act itself, having two women at once, or specifically watching their wife/girlfriend in the act with another woman that turns them on. I guess that's where my biggest fear stems from, that it's going to take away from our experiences together, that he'll want me less, that if he was included it would be because he wanted to be with her and not because I was involved.. insecurities.. I hate them. I have a wonderful man I think someday I will move past this enough to venture further, for now, thanks for the feedback everyone.

=:-)
Jenny

I say go for it but again feel out the ladies that you like. Maybe they feel the same way about this as you do. Besides it never hurts to go to a different town and see what happens there after partying all night.:)

Ladies,
If you really wish to make your desire a reality, take a look online for local swing clubs. I may suggest www.playcouples.com for a listing of clubs in your location. Please be warned ahead of time, you will probably meet people there you would never exect to see at a club like that. My wife an I have encountered some people we knew before we became involved in swinging at a couple clubs. Talk about finding out what your neighbors are really like! 8-)

thank you
 

I would like to thank everyone for the wonderful responces. I really appreciate it. :D

Re: feel the same way
 

the principles of lust are easy to under stand,do want you want, until you find love ''enigma"

and then what? Just include them?

=:-)

Sumen
 

I know for myself that watching the act was just as thrilling as getting invited. But I have always been rather secure in my sexuallity too. My ex at the time was mainly wanting my friend by herself and only me watching so that way I would do anything with my friend. But she finally got into the whole act and got really excited and that was when she was secure enough to invite me.
Glad that I could help, and feel free to PM me whenever.

Another male view
 

Another male viewpoint : Two women together, even only watching, is one of the most intensly erotic things I (and I suspect many men) can experiance - being asked to take part is a exiting added bonus. I have had one threesome, and it is something that can never be beaten or fogotten. Speaking for myself, it could never, ever detract from my partner - how lucky could one be to find a partner willing to allow you to share a girl!!! If anything it would make her all the more desirable. My current partner would never enterain the idea of another women (shock, horror!) - which is sad for both of us. (I would be far more likely to leave her for somebody who IS bi curious!!). Enjoy - and if your relationship suffers because of your wonderful interest - he was insane and your probably well rid!
Starlight - (and I LOVE to chat).