Hotel sex
 

Right. Just got a quick question. Myself and my girlfriend are going away Monday for a couple of nights in a hotel. Just us with no kids or distractions. Recently though the sex has been none existant. She does have concerns about her size but believe me she's the sexiest girl I know and I keep telling her this but she's not believing it. Has anyone got any advice how we could use this time we've got on our own to get the spark back ? I love her to bits and the sex is fantastic when we do it but I just want this weekend to help put us back on track.

Maybe it is a good time to start experimenting a little. Would she let you blind fold her?

Would she be into playfully tying you down, blindfolding you and then playing with you in whatever way she thinks would be fun? That would take a lot of pressure off from her and make you the vulnerable one. Might be fun for both.

She probably would. She's actually quite sexual when we're actually having sex but she does always need to have had a drink first. God. That makes it sound like she'd only have sex with me if she's drunk ! Lol. But it's just how she's always been. She's the one who took me by surprise and wanted it rough and the dirty talk of calling her a slut and things like that and loves me cumming on her breasts ! The thing is we seem to have sex on average every 6 months but when we do it's the best ever ! So I'm looking forward to the hotel days but I still don't want to get my hopes up and have them dashed. Thanks for your suggestions by the way x

I know that having kids around puts a damper on the sex. Maybe without the kids she will feel free not to worry about it that. So the prossiblity of wild sex will come back. As for what to do go for what you know and enjoy.

Edible massage oil, vanilla or strawberry. Get her into the intimate touching (touching and being touched) and if it doesn't work you have something to put on the icecream.

Above all, don't rush it or she'll feel pressured and go all defensive. That's not good.

I'm hoping Owen76 is going to give us an update on his night out.

We had the few days away but nothing happened :( . It was a nice few days away but I'd not got my hopes up too much. But we did actually have sex a couple of days before we went. And it was unplanned,spur of the moment type which i love which involved me sucking on her breasts, fingering and then rampant doggy style over the couch :D. But as I'd said, that was the first time in probably 6 months but its great when we do it. The thing is I start doubting myself thinking it's because I'm not good looking enough but we did discuss it before the sex and she's thinking I'm not finding her sexy so it's like 2 negatives trying to meet in the middle ! I admit my sex libido is sky high 24/7 but I'd settle for sex once every month or 2 months if I could and I'd count that as a result. Just wish there was more I could do to get her back in the mood again. She's not a prude at all. She likes sex stories, vibrators, porn and wears stockings and suspenders for me because she knows what it does to me but it's just getting her back to what she likes. Sorry for going on about it and going wayyyy off topic but I think I just needed to talk to someone.

That's one of the things this site is for. You mentioned she thinks you're attracted to her....How often do you randomly tell her she's pretty, or surprise her with flowers? Sometimes it's the small things that we forget and also happen to be the most important.

What ^ ^ he ^ ^ said!!

Spend more time 'courting' her. Just hugs, back rubs, sweet words....... small acts like helping with the kids so she can read a book..... Make her feel beautiful, loved, desired...... Don't dwell on just 'the sex'. It will follow.