Kaelynn,

Just getting on with someone isn't enough for a relationship, nor is great sex.

They are important components to a more complex thing, but they are not enough by themselves.

Perhaps you are trying so hard that you are scaring them off.

Don't worry about "official" and work on "functional".

Relax and take joy from the moment and let the heavy stuff sort itself out.

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