Don't talk to her until she already has a full drink. By the time she needs a refill...you'll not only know if she's available, but also if she is someone you may be interested in getting to know better.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.