Lou,
I was told the Kegels were helpful before but really more important afterwards to help the uterine walls (ha ha mine are gone!) and bladder resume their rightful positions. I read a great hippy birthing book before baby #2 and it described that as the contractions come you think of yourself as opening not 'contracting' and so after the contractions begins to ease you focus on breathing anf picture yourself opening up as you relax. The book said that keeping the perineum rubbed with oil during the process can help if opposing pressure is placed on it during the birth. That being said I can tell you from experience that cutting heals faster than tearing.

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