It's not just growing up, Lou. Some people have no empathy and are *always* self centered. For those who are not empathy-impaired, the act of growing up still takes years. I've known 40 year old men who still haven't managed it.

I tend to agree, however - don't return to your ex. I'd also seriously reconsider what you're seeking in a relationship.

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