Hey, as far as I know it's blood then adopted internet family. We all understand why you can't be here. I guess your brother in law hasn't learned yet that sometimes you just have to let go of the ones we love. So long as you keep their memory they're never really gone. I know sounds cliche, but that's how I deal with the few losses of family members I've had.

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"BOY: On a hot summer night, would you offer your throat to the wolf with the red roses? GIRL: Will he offer me his mouth? BOY: Yes. GIRL: Will he offer me his teeth? BOY: Yes. GIRL: Will he offer me his jaws? BOY: Yes. GIRL: Will he offer me his hunger? BOY: Yes. GIRL: Again, will he offer me his hunger? BOY: Yes! GIRL: Yes. BOY: On a hot summer night, would you offer your throat to the wolf with the red roses? GIRL: Yes. BOY: I bet you say that to all the boys!" -Meatloaf