Pepsigirl, I've been thinking about you and your problem (who wouldn't?). The way we go about it is not to squat over his hips and drop onto the spike - oouch! Try kneeling astride his stomach so your pussy is kissing his belly button. Lean forward and reach behind you to aim him at the right spot, then shuffle backwards GENTLY. This way the angle is about right and you are in complete control. You can take as much or as little of him as you want, and as slowly as you like. Wish I was there......