"Mothers, Goddesses and Whores" has become the usual explanation for men's expectations from women. The internet has allowed us to communicate in a more subtle and profound way, away from the shallowness of cultural dogma. The wise have always said though that there is someone for everyone and with compromise they are surely right.

However, this situation of letting yourself go does seem to me to be a breach of trust and I can understand that a guy might feel that he has been suckered into an arrangement not of his making or desire after which when he is as considerate as SS, the weight of moral obligation will force to compromise without reciprocation.

Don't be scared to be open yet compassionate about your concerns. The state you are in now appears to be the result of not facing these issues together. Nip it in the bud, bud.

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.