What I like to do is find a really good fantasy and use it to set the scene with my partner. Then we build off of the fantasy. It is a lot of fun and it can get things pretty damn wet in a hurry. Never tried using a cam before and I don't do the phone unless it is someone I already know and trust. Between cyber sex and just plain using my own imagination, I probably get off 5 times a week. Not a bad way for pleasure on the spot.