When I'm pleasuring myself, I will typically generate sexual scenarios that I've experienced with my wife. There have been times where I've been inspired by pictures as well.

I can't lie and say that I've never had fleeting thoughts involving penises while I was fantasizing but I don't really think I linger on one particular thought too long.

Now shaving carrots is another thing altogether. I just can't help but think "Damn...now that's gotta hurt"!

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.