So, then, hun....

-people are replaceable? Taking that as you wrote it....if John Boys wee wee won't come out to play, I can just go to Mikey's house and play with his wee wee and be 100% satisfied, even though Mikey's wee wee is nothing like John Boy's, and I can just temporarily forget that I happen to be nuts for John Boys wee wee?

-committment means nothing?
We can go from person to person and let them fill up all the holes inside us that our partner managed to miss? It's OK to give our energy to a third party (or more) versus giving it to the *special* relationship we share with our significant other and working to make it better?
Where is the honor in that? How will this change whatever problems we share with our special significant other? (Three guesses!) At the end of the day, you're still coming home to the same problem, only now your dick/kitty can feel a little better about it. *Nods*
Ain't that just special?

_I'm 43 years old, I know all about "different circumstances". My whole life has been about "different circumstances".

_I don't recall saying anywhere at all that everything is right with my relationship.


I'm sorry if I seem hostile and close minded; I certainly didn't start out this way. But along my journey, I learned in the hardest possible manner what one persons selfishness can do to another. I learned what disrespect can do to someone you supposedly love. I learned that people are unbelievably greedy, and treat their bodies and their sexuality as if its one huge buffet table, and they are supposed to sample every single offering. I learned that at the first sign of trouble, we are oh so quick to cut and run. And I have learned that love isn't all beautiful sunrises and earth shattering passion. Sometimes, it isn't very romantic, sometimes it's unfair, sometimes it's ugly and sometimes it hurts. But always, always it is something that is worth feeding and nurturing every single day, it's not a "sometimes" kind of thing.
I just cannot see how allowing a third party into it can possibly take it where it should/could go.
And I've learned that love is much more patient and kind than we deserve it to be. It can change, no matter how hopeless we feel it is. I'd rather stick around and let it.
Don't we all want the ultimate, the very best?
When someone cheats, they are cheating more than just their partner, they are cheating the relationship, and they are cheating themselves.

Disclaimer: I'd love to start this sentence with "I'm sorry", but I'm not.
I can't stand a damn cheat, and people that think the world revolves around their sexual needs, and those so selfish as to risk hurting someone else just so they can feel good for a bit. With all the damn toys and pornographic aids on the market today, and the fact that this seems to be all about instant sexual gratification and intimacy, (though how intimate can it be with someone you don't love, someone that is merely a fuck buddy?) there is absolutely no reason good enough to decide to cheat the relationship you've committed yourself to, and the effects of what that does to the married person you're fucking and their marriage is another thread, thankfully.

Do I have all the answers? Not in the least, but I do have guidelines of how I need to live my life and I don't get to change them mid script. I do know the difference between right and wrong, and I have to accept the fact that life will seldom suit me and that every single day can't be all about me, much less about me and my kitty.

Thanks!