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Originally posted by Revy
Do I have all the answers? Not in the least, but I do have guidelines of how I need to live my life and I don't get to change them mid script. I do know the difference between right and wrong, and I have to accept the fact that life will seldom suit me and that every single day can't be all about me, much less about me and my kitty.

Thanks!

Revy,
You're entitled to your opinion and feelings, just as the rest of us are. But I don't see where anyone suggested that YOU *should* go out and cheat. You have your own morals and ethics and I don't think any of us would dream of trying to get you to go against them.

But please try to understand, some of us have tried and tried to get our s/o's to understand our needs, but they have continually refused to do anything to meet our physical and even our emotional needs. I have tried for YEARS to get thru to him. It's like talking to a wall. I would rather be with him than anyone else. But it's NOT going to happen, and that's his choice not mine.
Yes, there are toys and there is porn, but that doesn't take the place of feeling wanted by another human being, feeling that you're still worth something to someone, and feeling you're still desirable. Lying in bed next to someone who, although they say they love you, refuses to touch you in any sexual way makes you feel like you're diseased or somehow repulsive to that person. So finding someone who does want to touch you and make love to you keeps you from going insane. I never went looking for a lover, never had any intentions of cheating, in fact rebuffed him repeatedly before he wore me down. You can only endure emotional and physical starvation for so long. I love my husband and in all other aspects of our life we have a very good relationship. And if by some miracle tomorrow he could and wanted to make love to me, that would be the end of my affair and my lover knows it.