You must each understand all the expectations that each other has in his/her heads. You have to layout everything so that you two can make an informed decision, which you can, both live with. I can see wyndhy's point but if the hurt is just too bad you may break what you have and will it be worth it? I can see cyberkittens comment being more a reality if you two are not on the same page going into it! In the mean time enjoy the fantasy!

Oh and no my wife and I have not yet crossed this in our lives but have discussed it often. She has said yes to the FFM, but I have not pursued because of what CK said, I will likely get jealous. But who knows I may be purrrrsuaded (ode to CK).

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DAM THE MAN!