I love this forum! Just wanted to point that out right now.

Cheating is so broad an issue and it really is subjective. Some guys might consider their woman with another woman as not being unfaithful yet with another man it is.

I think ppl need to express this when they decide to be monogomous. To me cheating is when a man/woman has physical sexual contact with another person without their partner's consent.

If 2 ppl want an open relationship then that's fine for them. I would consider being with a guy (or girl? I'm curious) who is in an open relationship. I have been with a man in a closed one and quite honestly it wasn't worth it. I felt I compromised my moral beliefs for cheap sex that wasn't all that good. It was quick, hard to find time, lying, and I knew despite his claims that I really meant nothing to him. I have nothing against purely sexual relationships but I want to be able to get some when I want it too, not when he could fit me in or when he's in the mood.

Now phone sex, online chats, cybering, that is a whole new area to deal with. I personally feel it falls under the porn category, right along with movies and magazines. I do it, I love it and I want to keep doing it. As long as it doesn't lead to infatuation and a real life meeting, I'm cool with it. So this forum is cool with me.

But I know some ppl aren't comfortable with these sort of activities. I think it's up to the individual. I don't think one person should ask another to stop but in the same respect if you really love someone then why do something you know hurts them? I think that in that situation the person should do it not in secret but just so that they aren't shoving it in the other's face. And that person should respect that the one they love isn't doing it in front of them and just leave it go.

But if someone really thinks forums and porn are cheating then they need to sit down and have a serious talk and come to a mutual decision. Perhaps if they have that opposing views they should look for partners closer to their nature.

Sweet Chastity