wyndhy~ I wish I had the perfect words to calm your fears but I don't. Every single solitary birth is a uniquely personal experience as I am sure every death is as well.

I read some good hippie midwife books I got at the library that helped me to re-evaluate my way of looking at the entire process. With the first child, the fear of the unknown left me in almost an observers role. I was not making choices or participating in the event. I was just dealing and having stuff done to me. Second go round I wanted to "give birth" not simply deal with labor. I tried my best. Hell yeah I was scared but I knew what was coming, and you have that advantage now as well. (((((hugs))))

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