first of all, i'm not sure if u are still interested in answers.
seccond, i am not a woman (u said u "would love to hear from a lady who has done anal while being on top and tell of exactly how it feels") but i have done anal in several positions. both active and passive.
so riding him facing away works pretty good for me. i can relax very well that way. facing towards him works good too. in general i think to ride causes less difficulties and pain than doggysyle. though i would not call doggy as painful. if done right anal sex has nothing to do with pain.
but my fafourite posissoin is laying on my back, him kneeling or standing in front of me... best orgasms from being fucked that way.

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