That's why I was careful to give a site that stresses repeatedly and constantly the need for both partners to be aware. And again, this is not so much a BDSM site, it is almost, but not quite, exclusively a D/s site. I have already stated that he should NOT assume she desires pain. This site stresses the importance of consentual understanding by both partners. It stresses knowing the limits of your partner and not crossing them, and the partner having full understanding of what the relationship is.

There are elements of the BDSM there, but the vast majority of the site is devoted to the D/s portion of the relationship and the responsibilities the dominant partner has.