Sometimes the right people find each other at the wrong times. Who's to say what things would be like if you two were able to be together? But right now, that can't happen without major changes to a lot of lives.

The first step should be to figure out if that's something you want to do. Lixy asked "What do you WANT to do?". Do you want to end your marriage? Do you want to have an affair? Do you want to end the intimacy you share with your coworker and try to find the intimacy and deeper connection your marriage is missing?

Then figure out what she wants to do. Would she leave her husband and children for you? Would she want an affair?

We can't give you answers but we're pretty good at asking questions, huh? I think you'll find that once you start answering the questions, your path will be a lot clearer.