It sounds like regardless of the friend issue, you need an alternative location for my...oops, I meant some kooky stalker's letters to land as opposed to your happy homestead. Diva's got the answer.

Now as far as this guy...some letters might get through. Let's face it, nothing with the word Federal in it's description is 100% efficient. You could tell him that every once in awhile you get some crazy correspondence for what appears to be a sexy bitch and that you used to read it for ha ha's but now just toss in the garbage whenever you see it. I'm sure he'd read anything that finds it's way in there and he'll probably bring it up with you and Mr. Lil in a joking way. You can gauge his responses and figure out whether or not you need or want to spill your guts.

Either that or get him a different PO Box and try to convince him that he's crazy...it's been that one all along. ha ha

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.