Oldfart must agree with you. Everything should be taken into account, If there too Knackered or there just not up to it and thats what i was saying Take it easy. It's not just you. Most couples dont realy know there partners. Most of us are moulded by our surounding's, up bringing, by our partners then in old age our ability. All you need to know is your partner and your limitations and get to know your partner. I do hope that most of us men dont just throw our partners over the kitchen table and be done with it, then order them to cook the dinner. even though I wouldn't mind my girlfriend doing that to me, the thing is she knows it and thats whats important KNOWING and GETTING to know.....

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