07-07-2011, 10:50 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Arizona
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The whole concept of sex being tied to love or lust is very limiting.
There are many reasons to have sex, and love or lust have very little to do with most. And those reasons should have very little to do with commitment.
Reasons? joy, sadness, loss, celebration, comfort, healing, among others
Women intuitively understand this. Men, not so much.
I came to understand this after the loss of my first wife. I moped around, was depressed, and was becoming self-destructive. One night my best friend's wife knocked on my door, came in and fucked me silly, and said, "snap out of your shit. You have a long life ahead of you."
That was healing sex, and my best friend had sent her. That sex was no threat to their relationship. They are still together 15 years later.
Just my thoughts on the subject. Sorry for the ramble.
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