Maybe you just answered your question, you feel that you sometimes get laid to stop you from asking "When"? My husband and I have both sides of the problem, when I'm ready he's tired, when he's ready I'm just not in the mood. When we are seperated, even for a few days we're horny when we meet again...maybe if you just left her alone she'd come to you. Don't stop the love, there are comforting things women want that you take for sexual things...just don't jump to the sex...try playing hard to get...