Alot of good advice listed here.

Yes, with children around, it's harder for a woman to "let herself go", well most women anyway. I know how it is in a young marriage, kids, money shortages, bills, all of which are contributing factors in the feelings of lack of sex.

Sex is not, or should not be measured by quantity. It's better to adjust to "quality". A good quality sex session sure the heck beats many "quickies".

It may be possible to ship the kids off to grandma's or another relative for an evening or two. This sometimes helps the two of you re-equaint yourselves to each other. But, remember to take it slow, have a nice meal, help clean-up, candles and soft music and most of all LISTEN to her. Rent and Watch a romantic movie (not necessarily a porno movie) and snuggle together on the couch or even the floor. Buy her something nice, something that she has been wanting or needing. There is always room in the budget to get something if you want it bad enough.

(I got married at 18 and was making a whole $3.00 per hour with a kid on the way, we were renting an apartment but still managed to save a down payment and bought a house in 18 months. We were told by all our friends that the marriage wouldn't last, that was 25 years ago!)

I have resided to making her feel good, I have set my goals to make her cum three or more times to my one, which isn't always easy.

Women like compliments, about their bodies, their house cleaning, their working with the children and anything else that makes them feel good mentally. Compliment her on the great jobs she is doing around the house, yard, work. Tell her you like the new dress, her meals, her hair. Don't push or even mention sex, but give her an extra "non-committing" hug.

Offer her a back or neck massage when she says she's tired. Even if she doesn't have an outside job, running a household can be very exhausting! Again, back away from sex, and when you do get together, work on her pleasures, not yours. You have chosen this woman to be you wife, for life, so treat her as the queen you fell in love with and give her all the pleasures you can.

In the event that none of these "suggestions" work, you may want to pursue the thought that maybe (not saying it's so) she is getting sexual release in another manner.