I hope I can add my 2 cents.

You said you love your wife, but are you "in love" with her?

IMHO there is a difference.


(IMHO) You should find that out 1st. Then you should to seriously ask the other woman where she wants this ( if there is a this) to go. And if it is serious you must tell you wife everything.

I doubt any marriage is perfect. I have been married for 7.5 yrs and we have had our rough patches. I don't lie and I don't hold back. I know sometimes what I say hurts my hubbys feelings but if I want things to change then he has to be aware of everything.

I wish you all the luck in the world that whatever you decide to do goes as smoothly as possible.

Hugs,
SK