MrCuriousUSA - Thanks for the reply. Menopause ... I have discussed this with her and she said she has talked with her doctor who did some test and said this wasn't the case. I still suspect it from her behavior which is magnified from excessive drinking. I have tried very hard to be patient but suspect there might be more problems than the sex thing.

We actually broke up 2 days ago. I had her over to my home to watch a pay per view movie. She wanted some ice-cream which sounded good to me after a long day. She had rested on the couch all afternoon and early evening, stressed and tired from new medication. While she slept I took care of her birds (Macaw and African Grey) cleaned cages, watered and fed them, the cat and her kennels downstairs where she has 9 German Pinchers. Cleaned the kennels, let the dogs out to run in pairs, fed and watered them, finally working out front landscaping across the front of her property. Yes ice-cream sounded good. I went out for ice cream only to come back and find out she went through my home, personal and business mail, opened letters, looked at pics in drawers, picture packages, some from my trip to Fla that were innocent enough from Bush Gardens with an internet lady friend and her family whom I have know for 3 years, farmed out graphic work to. It was very innocent and not the point of the trip. Actually my girlfriend went off on a rant and broke up with me 2 weeks prior to the trip. She also read an enclosed letter my internet friend sent with the pics, mentioning a gift she forgot to give me and how much she loved me. I have always been open with my girlfriend about this internets friends' advances and feelings towards me just as another friend of hers had done. I was called me a liar about that as well until I showed her the letters.
My girlfriend saw this neat wire man holding a surfboard from PR sitting on my shelf and assumed that was the gift mentioned in the letter and asked me about it. I told her that Deb my internet friends daughter had given it to me knowing I use to live in Fla and surfed. She delivered it when she came to the states with her new husband in Jan. Oddly, my girlfriend has seen it before so I was a bit shocked at her accusation. My internet friends' gift was something else all together.

My girlfriend called me a bold face liar, raised hell and stomped out after telling me how she looked through my business folders, cabinets, letters both business and personal, my dresser drawers, etc . I have nothing to hide but my privacy should be respected just as I do her's at her home. I told her she could see anything she wanted in my home if she asked but not to sneak while I was away then make assumptions.

We went back to her place as my car was there. She promptly told me to get my clothes out of her home. I gathered my stuff and got the hell out of there. I was pissed but held my kewel and express my feelings about her going through my home like that. After gathering my things, listening to her tell me she was going to go away with some fellow, take pics and I would never know if she screwed him or not. I told her to grow up and left.

The next morning she had a lady friend that lives 4 houses down from me knock on my door and ask for my girlfriends key. Explaining I would deliver the key later she said no, she had a few items I left behind which I would get when I gave her the house key. I gave her the key, in return received 2 framed pics of me, a beautiful heart necklace with baggett diamonds given a Christmas and the dirty clothes from working in the yard the previous day, washed but wet still. (Now I know how my ex knew when I came and went, announcing times and such which was only for shopping or dealing with clients.)

Yes, there is more going on than the lack of sex I think and unfortunately I feel the relationship is over. She has constantly lied, cheated, unfairly accused me, brought up stupid stuff, the last straw was her invasion of my privacy by going through my home like she did last night. Because I felt Menopause or stress from work and sick parents might be the trouble I've been patient, tried to relieve her of work around her home. I suspect drinking and medication comes into play. :-(( I haven't heard from her in 3 days now.

I'm comfortable with myself as a person and my integrity. Having grown through many challenges and disabiling accident I've learned patience and understanding. That's most important but something has made her begun to act oddly besides lack of sex the past 6 months.

Thank you very much for your time and reply. Yes, I have a great deal of love for her. I feel that without romance and sex between two people an emotional bond is desolved. I guess I was hoping for some other answer or enlightment.