I very seldom even check here anymore but this is one of those times.Congratulations to Sharni & Bilbo! All that I can offer for advice after 47yrs of our own marriage is that it's what you make of it & what you both put in to it! It goes BOTH ways!My wife put up with many yrs of my drinking,streetfighting & generally raising Hell.I have been sober for over 20yrs now & have calmed down as much as possible,for me!As I said BOTH sides must work at it & decide what is most important! Irish

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Irish---Better to be dead & cool,then alive & uncool!
(Harley Davidson & the Marlboro Man)