If you are a mismatch with your mate in all things sexual, how important or UNimportant is this in your relationship?

By 'all things sexual'..I mean ALL things of that nature.

It really depends on if there is any room for compromise or if one person is willing to settle (oooh I can not even stand the thought but I know some are willing).To some sex=intimacy and in that case I would think that would = problems if really incompatible. But I know that many people do not equate sex with intimacy and for those people itseems it would be possible to have a loving intimate realtionship regardless of what does or does not occur in the bed room (or kitchen or shower ). I think being unfufilled sexually can lead to other aspects of your relationship if it is a major priority...... whew... hit got myself started and could not shut myself up sorry

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I think in a relationship it's more important that you have similar life interests and goals, etc. I have known many couples who seem to lead separate lives together. That is, neither one seems interested in the hobbys, sports, or other activities of their mate. Seems to me life is much happier when these interests are common. If the sex isn't all that you would like it to be at first, its possible that it could be corrected with good communication. But if he/she dislikes, or has no interest in the activities you are involved in, that can be more destructive to the relationship.
Just my opinion for what it's worth.

The last guy I dated (the one I'm talking about in the advice thread) seemed a lot more traditional in bed . . . but he seemed willing to learn and there were initial sparks.

I guess I consider the sexual part of the relationship very important. I've always found the sex gets *better* the longer you date. Then again, one of my friends is married and he says there was never any passion in his marriage. He said he'll explain further only over cocktails so I'll have to wait to find out more when I get to Toronto again.

The sexual side of my relationship is important to me. As in life, you learn and growth. Where there were problems we overcame them by communicating. I enjoy sex more now as we have grown sexually together, so I guess I'm lucky.

Randy- You were very clear to state ALL things sexual. I find this would be a big problem in a lifelong relationship.

There is a saying.... sex isn't that important to a relationship as long as there are no sexual problems.
Just my 2 cents!

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Dear folk, what happened to the 'Creative' in the thread title?

What is being asked, RG?

OF having a thick day, sorry.

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