I was looking through some old magazines and came across a load of articles from that whole Clinton/Monica thing. I know we're all tired of it so I tossed them out. Ladies and Gents...

What do you consider to be cheating?

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I think the more important question is: What does your partner consider to be cheating? My wife get upset if I talk to any girl I ever dated, even if they were just fuck-buddies...(especially if they were fuck-buddies!) I think it mainly pertains to thinking... "What would my s/o think if she found out?" Along those lines of thought, I'm dead if she evers finds out about Pixies!

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cheating is going against the idea of what both/all partners had in the relationship? like if I'm I'm in an open relationship I expect different things to what I expect in a closed relationship but at all times the fences are poss movable - as long as we talk up front, cheating is going behind our/my back.

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I agree with MisX, partners need to be up front with eachother.
In my case my wife doesn't go for anything but looking and talking. as she says; "Look, but don't touch. I know you'll look, and when you stop looking i'll burry you 'cause you'd be dead".
She'll never get on Pixies and joke around like we do, it's not her thing, but you should see the way she licks an icecream cone when she knows some guy is looking...

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My love and I have a very strict cheating policy-if you even think about it, it's cheating. We just both believe that if one of us ever desires to cheat, then that means somethings wrong with the relationship. However, we also believe in working through problems, so the one time I did cheat I told him right away and it let us become closer and fix the problems we had.

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Easy question to answer.
I think cheating is ANYTHING that requires lying to your partner.
(or withholding the truth)
This doesn't include "don't ask don't tell" agreements, because they are agreed on before.


Leagal eaglely,

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i agree with this.

to me my wife will have cheated on me if she does anything else than chat. But i could forgive her if she kissed people but not anything more. Unless i gave my permission like in a three-some or orgy!!

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I am a flirt and will tease and banter to the max.

Infidelity is when I plan to take it further.

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We all cheat in some way or another, don't we? I don't think that means there's anything wrong with the relationship, but it doesn't mean it's an OK thing to do if it involves physical cheating.

It seems to me that we'd all be pretty boring if we were totally devoted to our s/o. And pretty unrealistic if we expected them to reciprocate the devotion. I cheat because I don't get sex at home. If I'm found out, I won't have a home. I feel guilty about cheating. I'd like permission to satisfy my needs elsewhere but that's not going to happen.

Those who have an open relationship have much to be envied, because they don't have to cheat. Those who both want to stay totally faithful to each other (however they define faithfulness) also have much to be envied. I wonder how many of us fall into the remaining category?

I think cheating is going behind your s/o's back.

My boyfriend lets me do pretty much anything but if I want to fuck the person, then I need his permission. I'm a bit more strict, he can play but no fucking in anything other than a 3some. When a guy goes down on me or fingers me at a party, we don't consider it cheating ... but I guess I'm a bit of a hypocrite because I really wouldn't want a girl giving him a blow job unless I was there.

Cheating is subjective.

Cheating can ruin a relationship in two seconds flat. Whether is was intentional or just a fast fling..and I know sooo many of us have been there, one time or another in our lifetime. (Remember when you were...8-9-10 years of age and you had 3 or 4 on the go??? LOL ) But most cheating is done cause there is something LACKING in the relationship.

I would never physically cheat on my man, (unless a Pixie man showed up at my door..LOL) and I know he would never cheat on me. We have our problems, like any of you and we work to make them better. (He don't even go see strippers!! LOL!!)

But I want to throw this out to you...

Do you guys consider having a "cyber relationship" with someone over a long period of time, cyber and all..lol....but no physical contact cheating??

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I think we all kinda do that!! We might be human but the animal insinct is very much alive..LOL I haven't met one person who dosen't flirt a little... ...and alot of it goes on here!!





Me being Diva!!!!




Oldfart flirts????????



Ok back to the question...

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Good question Diva~ I think you know when you have crossed that line.... For me guilt draws that line. I once talked to a person online (never met) who made it hard for me to look in my guy's face when he came home from work. It was not a good thing. Well actually it was a really good thing and that was the problem. Luckily he dumped me.... left me high and dry (or not dry that too being a problem ).... taught me a very good lesson. Play at a safe distance......

I too would never have physical sex with anyone other than my guy. It would in the end be unproductive and the death of my marriage. Plus I love him and would never want to cause him pain....... I save that for the men here!

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So would you consider internet playtime to be cheating then or is it tame like soft porn or soaps?

There are so many different qualities that make up relationships today. When it comes to sex most of us at Pixies tend to be on the "Dark Side" but things can change in our minds about cheating if our feelings are stepped on or insecurity creeps in.

What do you think people?

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Just my two cents....I think that cheating is indeed if there is a physical act but also if you are mentally involved with another person to the extent that you feel guilty about it than you are cheating as well. For me personally i would rather have a person cheat on me with a fast fling or whatever than to be involved on another level with someone because sex can be just physical for some but when it is mental it takes a whole other level.....

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