Hi all. I'm seeing this girl who is a virgin still. Now that isn't the issue. The issue is how do you get past that "block" that she has put up?

She has only ever had one b/f her entire life and so has very little experience in the matter's of sex. She hasn't even gotten herself off so as to experience an orgasm.

She has about 50 million reservations about every aspect of sex. She thinks that it is unhygenic to give oral, she thinks that it is dirty if a guy cums on her. That is just to name a couple.

So any help would be appreciated.

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Seems to me you aren't even at the "sex" point. If you like this girl, and I assume you do, then develop the "relationship"...if the relationship blooms, great and if sex eventually occurs, even better.

Well rock, her and I get along like a house on fire.

She just has a million different reasons every 2 seconds. The r/ship is solid, I am asking on how to get this "block" of her's down. I know that time heals all,but if she doesn't get over her insecurities then it may cause problems. It ain't healthy. That is why I am asking for advice on this rather touchy matter.

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OK....This is one of th emost emotionally tone-deaf posts I've seen in a very long time. Sex will arise naturally out of a relationship, when and if it makes sense to both parties. There's no way I know to "get her over the hump." Stop pressuring the poor lass, enjoy what you do have together, and see how things work out.

I know this sounds funny from someone who spends so much time on a sex forum, but there is so much mroe to life than just sex. Relax and enjoy her for who she is.

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osuche, thanks,I understand that. I would just like some advice on helping her over the "block". I do understand that it is different for girls when they first dive into this. Us guys can make such a mess of it because all we have to do is stick "it" in. We spend so much time worried about trying to get there that we can forget that the girl is under us or wherever she might be during sex, that we don't take into consideration on what she is feeling. I mean for all we know we could be doing the best job in the world and they're like "is that it?".

Because she is a virgin, I want it to be something that she will cherish and not think "shit that was a disaster,fuck it hurt etc".

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Just let the relationship run its course and don't worry about it if she wants to have sex she'll let you know.

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It's a BOY!!

Um, go ask the virgin you mercy fucked last week, maybe she'll have some insight on how virgin women think.

First off if she has to rebuff you every "2" seconds you are being too pushy.

How can the relationship be solid? You were just bemoaning about another girl this week too.

I don't think for a minute it is her securities that may cause problems but maybe your own. Sounds like you don't feel manly unless your boinking someone.

What persay is not healthy? Her not being ready for sex? She is a smart cookie to know that she is not ready and even smarter if she sticks to her guns and waits for when SHE is ready.

I guess you'll just have to chalk it up to "being her loss" :devilish:

Well if nothing else Mark you may have learned here that women do not like to hear a woman being referred to as a mercy fuck. It is a degrading and juvenile way to describe a woman, especially a woman who gifted you her virginity.

She didn't gift me anything. She wanted it pure and simple. She just came out with it "I want you to fuck me". Now does that sound romantic to you? I mean what the f... am I to do when she was all over me like a bad habbit and making it clear as day as to her intentions?

She even said herself "I want you to be the one that I fuck coz I just want to get it out of the way so I am no longer a virgin."

I asked her "why?"

She said "well I'm sick of all my friends telling me that they got laid on the weekend and such and such. They tell me how good it is. I'm here stuck with playing with myself and they're out there having fun with someone else."

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ya'll both get drunk, take ur pants off and stick ur dick up her arse. lol

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Mark...When she's ready, she'll let you know. Don't push it. If you care, like you say you do, let it be. Seems like you're the one with the problem. Sex is not a "be all and end all". Look at the bigger picture.

I am slow coming to this post, no pun intended.

Sex comes as you both become comfortable and build the trust and desire that normally precede it. Give your relationship a chance to blossom without forcing sex as an issue.
Good luck.

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Yep it must me anti-me day...............

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Some appear to feel a wee bit errr aggressive on this subject *L*

It may be the way the girl was raised that masterbation/sex is taboo or dirty

You need to talk to her....or ask her to discuss her fears with another woman maybe

Your sexual needs cum last mate...sorry bout that....But this girl needs to be given time to blossom before ya go pickin' at her bud so to speak

I spoke to you about this...you need to be patient...if ya cant be then ya need to let her go find someone who will

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