Hi.

How I stop being a work aholic? It isn't so much in my habits as much as in my mind. I work a fair amount (50+) but that isn't a tremendous amount to some.

But I've over identified myself with my job. I want to change my paradigm. I want my job to be merely that - a job. I want to be good at, and I want to contribute well, but I want to stop living it all the freakin' time.

I just got a demotion (I am a manager) and it doesn't impact my pay, just my ego.

I am seriously thinking of taking the severance...with no options (I don't have another job lined up and I am the breadwinner in my family). What is wrong with me. This is a no brainer. Check the ego at the door. Take the demotion and move on. I make good $.

How do I get my life back in order?

I seriously think this is an addiction. Over identified with work.

Help? Advice?

Thanks



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Don't react in a knee-jerk manner.

Find another job which you will enjoy which will meet the needs of your commitments.

Take your time, find the right one, and just when your current employer thinks that he's got away with it, smile sweetly and walk away.

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Thank you OF. I always appreciate your perspective. Lots of good life experience well summarized.

The whole thing just sucks though. I work my ass off and I know I'm solid. On the one hand, I don't actually mind the job change (lots of problems adding up and the environment is really hard) but I don't like the demotion aspect and I am not a big fan of the job they are sending me too. Although I can do it, and am good at it. I just wish I wanted to do it. It's also really disappointing that they aren't giving me a chance with the new regime. The whole thing just sucks.

Anyway, I want to use this as an opportunity to change my paradigm from live to work to work to live. Guess this is really just repeating this for my benefit.

Been there, done that. Just be a little careful, Jax, just so they don't take the changed paradigm to mean, "well we demoted him so he's/she's now putting in 50%" .

Cyber Dude,

Yeah I worry about that as well especially since I wouldn't be surprised if there is a larger re-org coming...meaning more layoffs....so who knows, this may all have the same result anyways.

Tell me more about your "been there done that." Part of my current mindset is that this all just sucks. But I know we all have our challenges in life. And this situation, all things considered is simply irritating. People have far bigger challenges in their lives than this.

But it still sucks and stings.