I'm wondering. When you're having quiet time with the SO and things are laid back. Watching TV or reading. Do many of you venture tender touches without intent? What I mean is if there's touching does it have to be intended as a sexual thing? I know guys who say if she gets it up she's gotta get it back down. Personally I enjoy a little play even when it isn't leading to full blown sex. What has the our panel of experts to say?

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definately! his touch can relax me and i know mine does the same for him.

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I love to lay in someone's arms, I love fingernails raking, my hair played with. It doesn't matter if we have sex or not... I know I love to be touched...

I usually will do things to him as little signals and clues that I want them done to me.

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Well for me laying in his arms and just playing with his head or his hairs on his chest relaxes me....I love it when he just holds me, gives little kisses on my forehead or neck....yes sometimes leads to other things and thats alright to. Just every once in a while would love to spend the night doing the little things that tend to get lost.

This has always been a major source of tension and frustration between the SO and I. I love touch, sexual or not. In fact, many times the touch is more important than the sex.

She, on the other hand, thinks that everytime I touch her, I am wanting sex. I cannot bridge the difference, no matter how hard I try.

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Is it that she wants to have sex as well? Or is it that she's expecting you to want sex?

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I hear you on that one. Hell I can't even roll over in bed without her thinking I want sex. There are times when I just want to cuddle and hold her or be held. But she seems to think I want more. It would be nice to just be able to cuddle and if sex results from that at some point then great, but is not what I always want.

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*SIGH* What is that??????

I've been told before...."I'm not a damn dog......I don't need pettin"
Whateverrrrrrrrrrrr

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I don't think I could sit next to him and not be touching him in some way. Hell I touch him in the car. Not necessarily in a sexual way just in a loving, caring way.

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A touch says much more than "I want sex"... a simple comfort... or a silent reminder that one is there for the other... *sigh*

.......i know what you mean......

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How can you live without touching....it's so amazing...from the gentle stroke of my fingertips across his arm as we watch TV, to rubbing my kids' backs when they sit beside me...I need to touch.

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when Mayhem and i were planning my trip over to him, the single most thing that we were looking forwards to was to actually touch one another. (yeah we were looking forwards to the sex as well) Then we said that we just turn and poke each other just to be sure that i was really here next to him, but that jab with a finger has become a soft stroke of the back of my hand across his cheek.

i touch him as often as i can, whilst still giving him "some" free space. i want to memorize every inch of him for when i must be away from him and back to the states. i love soft gentle kisses, and i kiss him often, even if it doesn't lead to sex, i still feel satisfied.

I love to give him massages, whether a quick shoulder rub, or a full massage with oil all over his back and legs. it is the satisfaction of knowing that i can calm and soothe with my hands and fingertips that is my reward (although i do admit i like a massage too once in a while)

when we go out shopping or walking around, i love holding his hand. It is reassuring to me as well as another reason to touch him. *SIGH*

Seriously, we need a mushball alert emoticon!

Not that I advertise it but I'm secretly touchy feely. I love gently massaging him to help him sleep, I stroke his neck when he's driving & gently grab his thigh when we're watching TV.

But I'm not mushy, I swear!

sooo sweet

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