Hi everyone,

Recently I have begun having fun with a gentleman I have gotten to know online. We speak on the phone often and chat otherwise. In these conversations, we have both shared intimate details of what our turn ons are. We appear to be rather compatible sexually and I believe that there is a great likelihood that we will be getting together in the near future to explore our sexual compatibility.

He has a strong fondness for ass play, something that altho I have never experienced, am certainly very open to trying it. He has expressed to me the importance of preparing my ass for the experience

What I am looking for here is advice based on your own personal experiences. Do you enjoy ass play? If so, was there any particular methods you used to preparing your ass for the initial experience? Do you believe that you could have done something that would have made the experience better? If you have tried ass play, and did not enjoy it, I would like to hear from you as well. Is there a particular thing that you believe may have helped you to enjoy it more?

Kisses in advance for all you wisdom.

in my experiance make sure it's clean and then use plenty of LUBE for anything!!! and go slow. it's alot of fun if done right, and not if you don't.

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The simple rule to remember is CLR - Communication, Lubrication, Relaxation. A tonne of each, and then some.

You have to WANT it. You have to be turned on, excited, really into it. It's ok to spend heaps of time on foreplay, y'know...

Practice by yourself. It's your butt, you need to familiarise yourself with it first, before letting someone else in there. Play with it, see what you like. With your own fingers, you have a better sense of what's going on that you do with someone else's. And y'know what? You don't have to take a whole fist up there immediately. Maybe just a finger to start with. It doesn't even have to penetrate. Just playing around with the opening can feel GREAT. Then move up to a finger inserted, and when you're comfortable with a finger up there, start moving it around a bit. Feel the texture, feel the sensations of something moving around there. Move your finger in and out, twist it around.... in short, experiment. Once you're happy and comfortable with 1 finger, introduce another. And get used to that.

Toys are great, too. Particularly butt-plugs - start with a small one, and when you're comfortable move up to a medium etc etc.

So basically, best way to play with your butt is slowly, with plenty of lube, and when you're in the right zone mentally.

Have fun, post pics and tell us all about it!!

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You know, Blackadder, for me socks are like sex. Tons of it about and I never seem to get any.

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Wine helps too

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^^^^ In moderation. You don't want to be impairing your judgment or affecting your ability to feel pain. But a little extra help in loosening up, if you need it, is ok.

Also I should have mentioned health and cleanliness. This being the place where poop comes from, good idea to explore the area AFTER a bowel movement, not right before. I like to have a small enema before doing any play, but your mileage may vary. If you do, the ordinary Fleet disposable enemas are fine, but tip the solution out and just use ordinary plain water. It also depends a lot on diet - try to eat a healthy, high-fiber diet. A high-fiber diet is also good to preventing bowel cancer, so it's a win-win situation really.

Also with lubes, you obviously want to stay away from oil-based lubes if you're using a condom. Water based lubes are fine, but tend to get tacky or sticky and often need reapplication. I've found the best lube for anal sex is silicone-based lube, but be aware you can't use silicone toys with it or they'll deteriorate. I also recommend against Analese or other lubes that "numb" the area - you need to be able to feel if there's pain or discomfort so you can tell him to stop, slow down or whatever.

Also, for best results, take photos and post them on Pixies. And tell us how it goes

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You know, Blackadder, for me socks are like sex. Tons of it about and I never seem to get any.

My Photos:
https://imgur.com/a/80hiRdm

I just had posting deja vu.

I totally knew you were going to sat that^^^^^^^

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
<~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~>
One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas