Well, I have to say I haven't cheated, but I have been cheated on. While I've been on the receiving end of that pain and would not want to pass that along to someone I love as much as my boyfriend, I would also not be comfortable saying that I would NEVER cheat. I'm a cautious, never say never kind of girl, and temptation is a strong thing.

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Devil's Advocate

I've "cheated," been "cheated on" and will probably "cheat" again. Quite honestly, when examined with the entire panoply of human betrayal, it seems rather innocuous; and besides, the idea that my life partner had given an orgasm to or received an orgasm from someone else doesn't really upset my equilibrium that much.

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I think things like "I haven't cheated YET" and "I don't know if I would" are strange things to say for anyone in a serious relationship. That sounds like giving yourself the option of hurting your partner, and in the end yourself, in a horrible way.

I haven't cheated or been cheated on (as far as I know), in the classical meaning of the word...

Hi, BTW. First post from an old lurker....

Hi arne...welcome to posting.


As a "I haven't cheated yet" person, let me tell you that I never want to hurt Mr. Lil and everyday make a conscious decision to remain faithful to our marriage. Temptation is knocking hard and heavy at my door and the "yet" reflects that I am still making that choice. In all actuality it is very likely that we will move to a more open marriage and then in that case it won't be cheating and this line of thinking will be moot.

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Temptation is a strong thing, but love and respect are pretty powerful too. I' have been terribly hurt in the past but I have remained honest and can hold my head high. Lil's "open marriage" maintains honesty and respect and allows everyone to maintain their integrity. Indulge yourself gracefully.

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I have been cheated on in the past but would never cheat on my partner now, its way too good a relationship 2 throw away on a hour long whim. Cyber is different, and both me and my partner do it.

I agree that you have to keep your self-respect. Also important that you find someone to trust and care for. I'm not the "zipless fuck" type...but I can't say that I'd never cheat.

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I can say that I'd never cheat. We don't consider cyber fun to be cheating, so long as there's no serious emotional involvement. I personally have never let an internet situation come anywhere close to being considered emotional involvement.

I've been cheated on. I have not cheated, nor will I. It's all about choices, consequences, and the depth of those two...I'm not sure I have the strength to challenge them..

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I've never been unfaithful and neither has Mrs. WI. Sex isn't important enough to break the bond between us. Will either of us ever be tempted enough to have a relationship outside of our marriage? We've discussed the possibility and are in agreement that if we find true love elsewhere, it would hurt but we would want the decency and courtesy of being told. We're not naive enough to think it's impossible. But will it ever happen? I don't know...I haven't mastered the mazes of Ammon-Ra.

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