I just ended a 3 and a half year relationship, and have no clue what my next step is. I expect sex on a first date, but know it won't happen, I expect a great friendship after one date, but know that won't happen either. I'm working hard to get my friendship with my ex to work, but obviusly she needs time. A few weeks ago this felt like freedom, right now it feels like hell. I hate masturbation, I hate Saturday nights alone.

I guess given this is pixies the best question I could ask is how can I make sure to get sex on the first date while at the same time build towards a friendship?