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Old 07-14-2007, 12:49 AM
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Unhappy i knoe its REALLY off topic. but i need some advice. plz.

any lonely hearts out there?
my feionce went to jail 4months ago. and now im basicly a single mom now. my son is the best thing in my life.
my mans mom moved in to help, and it does. but its fcukin hard.
i knoe he'll be here for me when he gets out. but now i feel like theres no one i can lean on. i moved to be with him, so i only knoe a few ppl in this city.
i knoe that i have to tkae care of my son and i love to. seeing him smile everyday, i love it. i feel like ...... My son(10months) is the ONLY reason i get out of bed in the morning. is that the way it should be? im getting to the point that its not enough nemore. that makes me feel horrible too.
any suggestions? please dont say see a doctor. i have.

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Old 07-14-2007, 03:13 AM
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It sounds like a pretty normal reaction to the situation. You're displaced and left alone... surely there's more to life. I know when I was in a similar frame of mind I had to get away and busy myself with some creative effort. Maybe there's a group activity you could attend on occasion to meet a few friends? Trust me I know the love for a child is awesome but you also need some friends your age to mingle with. Just my lil offering... best wishes to you.
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Old 07-14-2007, 05:47 AM
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native.baby,

You feel alone, but you are not. I have included links below to three support groups who know how you feel and can help you. “There is no worse feeling than that of being alone and helpless. This applies to the families of those who are incarcerated just as much as it does to those behind the walls.”

I hope one of these is right for you.

http://www.centerforce.org/families/support.cfm

http://dailystrength.org/support/Re...CFRGsGgod2R4B0Q

http://www.prisontalk.com/
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You are facing several circumstances that often leave people feeling isolated. When you stack one on top of the other I am sure the loneliness is overwhelming. I would suggest you find groups in your area who have things in common with you. Many churches have Mother's Day Out type programs that would offer you son a chance to be around other kids and you a chance to meet some other moms. Of course there are social groups etc. you could look into. I know its hard to just get out there and expose yourself but its the only way people will get the chance to know you.

Of course none of that helps at night when you feel the most alone. I understand those feelings. I was a millitary wife for some time. For those times, come here and find people to talk to, just like you did.
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Old 07-14-2007, 11:16 AM
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Come visit Pixies, and find other online communities. Set up some play dates for your child - I mean, you'll enjoy them a lot and he will be learning. I know he's a little young, but it will be good for you both.

(((((native.baby)))))))
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hi

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Not to pick on your post here, but ever heard of using spell check? Anyway it is normal to feel those feelings. Also it will get better and who knows you may even move on yourself. It of course depends on how long your fiance is in jail for as well. Who knows what the future may hold.
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(((native.baby))) I don't think there's much thats really off topic here at Pixies. How are you doing? Hope things are a little better for you. Keep us up to date.... PM me if you want.
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Mark,
Ever heard the saying, "If you don't have any thing nice to say then shut the fuck up?"

*shrugs* Me neither
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Hmmm...I think I've heard that one before.




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oh wait, thats not it. hmmm, guess I don't know it.
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Not to pick on your post here, but ever heard of using spell check? Anyway it is normal to feel those feelings. Also it will get better and who knows you may even move on yourself. It of course depends on how long your fiance is in jail for as well. Who knows what the future may hold.



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Mark,
Ever heard the saying, "If you don't have any thing nice to say then shut the fuck up?"

*shrugs* Me neither


One of my HUGE pet peeves, and I was actually banned from one message board because of it. And the reason I don't respond a lot of times to posts like OP's.

If you come to a message board looking for help, and expect to get an intelligent respectful response is it too much to ask to have the question worded in an intelligible fashion? I know not everyone is a great speller of uses proper grammar, but at least a minimal effort should be made. To me taking the time to use proper spelling and grammar is a sign of respect to those whose help you're asking.

Like I said I'm not expecting college level English skills, because Lord knows I use crappy grammar and have trouble with certain words, but a little effort would be nice.
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Old 08-29-2007, 05:26 PM
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As for what level of service you think she provides I can guaruntee ...


Jude30,
Have you ever heard that saying about casting the first stone?

*shrugs* me neither
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She put this at the end of her thread. So why is everyone questioning what I said?????

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Now what is the point of having a public forum only to get shot down. Now I certainly don't need to have people tell me what I did or didn't say wasn't up to standard. I even recieved a pm in regards to this as well. Now the thread was started by native baby, it she has a problem with what I said she is more than welcome to pm me or say so here in the thread.

More and more people will stop posting on this site if this continues. What is the point of having a public forum if this is the kind of response that people are going to get?

Jude and myself and have a disagreement over this sort of thing in the past, I said my apologizes to him and that is that.

Native girl if indeed you have taken offence to what I said then I'll opologise in advance. Now can we stop picking on what I did or didn't say????
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