My wife and I have discussed and agreed to let eachother have a one time casual affair. I won't tell her/she wont tell me. Here is the issue...I want to be with another guy as a one time thing. I'm not secretly gay and going to fall in love, I'm extremely bicurious and its something that I want to do one time before I'm dead. My question is, is this wrong since she assumes that my affair is with a random girl and not a guy?

I think that particular detail should be made known.

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why do you think so?

As it is on a No Tell basis why not try it. You may not enjoy it and can always then follow your wifre's assumption. An affair is more than a one night stand.

Then don't.

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"Wrong" is whatever viloates the agreements you have made with your wife.

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I would say you should discuss the possibility of your one night stand being a same sex pairing. Whether or not you tell her that that is your intent is up to you.

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If you are having this much trouble trying to decide then it is wrong and you are just trying to justify your actions.

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interesting quandary. your secret may not violate the letter of the agreement but, in my opinion, it does violate the spirit.

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Because your wife is assuming it will be an opposite sex partner and it appears you don't know if your wife will be ok if your secret partner is of the same sex. The fact that you posed the question tells us there is a possibility that she won't be ok with it and in that case it should be discussed beforehand. Just because you have agreed it will be a secret now doesn't mean problems won't arise later where disclosure might become necessary.

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I think you maybe hit the nail on the head, scarecrow.

pretty much everybody said dont do it but im going to do it anyway. she had her guy last week and wants to do it again anonymously. i had sex with her after and euen went down on her and loved it! so why not do what i want...she is. ill play safe and nobody finds out.

If you are so afraid that she's get mad at you if she finds out, you probably know why.

It is your risk to take, your fallout to wear.

Safe sex is needed, 'cos we know the statistics on STDs. Some will kill you, and maybe her.

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If the original agreement as stated in your inital post was a one time affair for each and both agreed not to let the other know then it appears the rules somehow got change. You susequently posted that you are aware of her recent affair and her looking to hook up again with him. If this is the case, she appears to be taking this in a new direction. Perhaps you need to review the initial parameters and take a hard look at where she might be going with this. If not you just might have all the time in the world on your hands to choose who and how many affairs you want to have.

Since she wants a second go at it, why not let her bring him to you for a sampling? Then she, you & #3 can close the door making it history, or leave open the opportunity for encores, with new or the same! Remember you've already tasted his sperm. So, why not get a straight shot from the tap?

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