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Ladies, are any of these on the mark?

Gentlemen, are ya guilty? What would the list for women be?


40 mistakes men make while having sex with women

1) NOT KISSING FIRST.
Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her
feel like you're paying by the hour and trying to get your money's worth by
cutting out non essentials. A proper passionate kiss is the ultimate form of
foreplay.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR.
Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there's a
difference between being erotic and blowing as if you're trying to extinguish
the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

3) NOT SHAVING.
You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake
repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs. When she turns her head
from side to side, it's not passion, it's avoidance.

4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST.
Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they get
their hand on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.

5) BITING HER NIPPLES.
Why do men fasten onto a woman's nipples, then clamp down like they're
trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive.
They can't stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your
tongue across them is good. Pretending they're a dogie toy isn't.

6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES.
Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and
thumb like you're trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on
the whole breasts, not just the exclamation points.

7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY.
A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville East and
West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of her body which you've
ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown Vagina. So
start paying them some attention.

8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED.
Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled
fingers and underpants. If you're going to be that aggressive, just ask her
to take the damn things off.

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT.
Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you store it.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS.
Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along
side of the clitoris.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK.
Women, unlike men, don't pick up where they left off. If you stop, they
plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she's not there, keep
going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY.
Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the
waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present,
not a kid's toy.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY.
Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the
material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.

14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA.
Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they still believe
that the vagina is where it's all at. No sooner is your hand down there than
you're trying to stuff stolen banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in
principle, but if you're not careful, it can hurt - so don't get carried
away. It's best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the exterior of her
vagina at first, then gently slip a finger inside her and see if she likes
it.

15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY.
You're attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to get her in
the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and knees are not.

16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY.
Don't force the issue by stripping before she's at least made some move
toward getting your stuff off, even if it's just undoing a couple of buttons.

17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST.
A man in socks and underpants is a at his worst. Lose the socks fist.

18) GOING TOO FAST.
When you get to the penis-in-vagina situation, the worst thing you can do
is pump away like an industrial power tool - she'll soon feel like an
assembly-line worker made obsolete by your technology. Build up slowly, with
clean, straight, regular thrusts.

19) GOING TOO HARD.
If you bash your great triangular hip bones into her thigh or stomach, the
pain is equal to two weeks of horseback riding concentrated into a few
seconds.

20) COMING TOO SOON.
Every man's fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of
her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH.
It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the
mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina. At
least buy some intriguing wall hangings, so she has something to hold her
interest while you're playing Marathon Man.

22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME.
You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise. But if you
really don't know, don't ask

23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY.
Don't act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole mouth down
there, and concentrate on gently rotating or flicking your tongue on her
clitoris.

24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN.
Men persist in doing this until she's eyeball-to-penis, hoping that it
will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women hate this. It's about
three steps from being dragged to a cave by their hair. If you want her to
use her mouth, use yours; try talking seductively to her.

25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX.
Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody likes it.
When she's performing oral sex, warn her before you come so she can do what's
necessary.

26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO.
Don't thrust. She'll do all the moving during fellatio. You just lie
there. And don't grab her head.

27) TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES.
In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate over them. In
real life, it just means more laundry to do.

28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES.
Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she does all
the hard work is not. Caress her gently, so that she doesn't feel quite so
much like the captain of a schooner. And let her have a rest.

29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
This is how men earn a reputation for not being able to follow directions.
If you want to put it there, ask her first. And don't think that being drunk
is an excuse.

30) TAKING PICTURES.
When a man says, "Can I take a photo of you?" she'll hear the words "__to
show my buddies." At least let her have custody of them.

31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH.
Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to pouring honey
on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice and feathers are all handy
props; hot candle wax and permanent dye are a no no.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINST HERS.
There is no less erotic noise. It's as sexy as a belching contest.

33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES.
If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she's a Romanian
gymnast, don't get too ambitious. Ask yourself if you want a sexual partner
with snapped hamstrings.

34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE.
Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men because they have
a prostate. Women don't.

35) GIVING LOVE BITES.
It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck,
if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty
scarves for weeks on end.

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS.
Don't shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It's not a big
turn-on.

37) TALKING DIRTY.
It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor calling a 1-900 line. If
she likes nasty talk, she'll let you know

38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES.
You have to finish the job. Keep on trying until you get it right, and she
might even do the same for you.

39) SQUASHING HER.
Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit too
heavily, she will turn blue.

40) THANKING HER.
Never thank a woman for having sex with you. Your bedroom is not a soup
kitchen.

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I'd agree with most of them yes - would love to hear the other side of the coin though. I wonder, if we loved all of the above 'moves' would that make us the perfect sex partner for a man?!

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Fruit flies like a banana"

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The one rule I can think of off the top of my head for women to follow is this:

1. When giving a blowjob at the end don't leave us to spray like an unattended garden hose. You don't have to swallow, but you at least need to keep stroking with your hand.

Do women really do that then? I can't imagine anything more frustrating for the guy and more messy for the woman - surely it goes everywhere?!

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1) NOT KISSING FIRST.
I love kissing, but Mrs. WI thinks it's germy.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR.
She hates it more when I stick my tongue in there.

3) NOT SHAVING.
Guilty

4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST.
Everyone knows you test melons by thumping them.

5) BITING HER NIPPLES.
I'm guilty of little love nips. No chewing though.

6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES.
I twiddle a little, but am more likely to place my thumb at the underside of her nipples and draw my fingers down her areola down towards the tip of her nipple. That doesn't seem to bother her. ha ha

7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY.
I'm a leg & foot guy too. But if I kiss my way up her legs to the Midtown Tunnel, she doesn't like it. Trailing my tongue down from her breasts to her pubic region is ok though.

8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED.
I'm more likely to get pubics trapped.

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT.
Not applicable.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS.
Up one side, across the top and down the other. The only avenue she doesn't like is from underneath, and that's only with fingers. The tongue can launch an onslaught from any angle.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK.
She loves when I go back and forth between intercourse and oral but yes...once she's damn near there, she doesn't like coming down until it's on the other side of the climax.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY.
Not applicable...she won't let me undress her. And no...it's not because I've broken windows with buttons that fly off of her ripped clothes like shrapnel from a grenade.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY.
Chicks don't dig getting flossed?

14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA.
I love exploring her entire body, but I could set up camp down there for a week.

15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY.
But it feels so good...when I stop. ha ha

16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY.
Not applicable...I'm married.

17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST.
I've found that sexy or not, socks are preferred over cold feet.

18) GOING TOO FAST.
Is it ok to use a pattern of three short strokes followed by one deep? I sure hope so.

19) GOING TOO HARD.
So that's what that grimace is from. Thank you!

20) COMING TOO SOON.
Nobody's perfect all the time. But there's always a Plan B. Sometimes we skip Plan A intentionally.

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH.
It's not nice to keep a lady waiting.

22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME.
I think we're both pretty obvious.

23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY.
It's only gentle when I'm teasing.

24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN.
I would never do that...I bring my penis up. lmfao

25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX.
It's damn obvious.

26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO.
Sometimes a little mouth-fucking is in order. I apologize if this is not appropriate.

27) TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES.
She likes it on her chest. Or her short hairs. Or her arse. I take the cue from her though. She points...I shoot. ha ha

28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES.
She doesn't last long at all on top. I think it has something to do with the angle of penetration. Or maybe it's cus I like holding her breasts together so I can lick both nipples at once.

29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
It really was an accident! I swear...one time and I'll never hear the end of it!

30) TAKING PICTURES.
I'm still working on that one. She's considering a "penis across the breast" pic.

31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH.
That's one area that is not a problem. I'm imaginative to the point of bizarre, in a goofy way.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINST HERS.
What about the sound of testicles slapping against her clit? Is that not sexy either? I may have to address that.

33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES.
Any pose with me is a stupid one. Sorry...it's just the way it is.

34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE.
I don't dig around...I just lick.

35) GIVING LOVE BITES.
I'm too old for love bites.

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS.
Funny...the only time she ever listens is in bed. ha ha

37) TALKING DIRTY.


38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES.
Not an issue. If anything, she has to mule kick me to get me to stop!

39) SQUASHING HER.
Uh...have you seen me?

40) THANKING HER.
Guilty...I can't help it! I'm very appreciative. Sorry.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

I was right with you WI until #40 - I HATE to be thanked! I do it because I love it and because I love him. Thanking me makes me feel cheap.

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Fruit flies like a banana"

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I do it with respect and affection...because I'm appreciative. I can't imagine not expressing gratitude. In my mind, it's more of a "thank you for being mine so that we can share this wonderful experience together" rather than "thanks for letting me blow my load in you". Knowing Mrs. WI's personality...she'd let me know if she took it the wrong way. lol

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

I think it just makes me feel self conscious and makes me feel like he thinks I'm doing him a favour, when in reality, it's usually the other way around! Perhaps I should start thanking him!

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"Time flies like an arrow -
Fruit flies like a banana"

M Y - N A U G H T Y - P I C T U R E S ! !

He's doing you a favor alright...he's protecting you from a tall, balding Irishman over in the colonies.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

some of hose are so true, thankyou for sharing Lilith

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS.
Don't shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It's not a big
turn-on.



LMAO. I had a guy do that once. He only got one opportunity.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

Ahh, so that explains why you never returned my phone calls.

I'm in WI's camp on #40. People say 'Thank you' to show appreciation in many circumstances. Why not after sex? I don't see why it's different. (And Lou, I'm in no way attempting to invalidate your feelings.) I appreciate it when my wife rocks my world... therefore I say thank you.

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Put me on wheels and I'll turn tricks.

Clever? Nah, I ran out of that years ago. But if you find this, let me know, k?
"The road goes ever on..." ~ Tolkien

In memory of my friend skip...
Go then, there are other worlds than these

This makes me wish NN had an email address...even though he is really good at some of the things he does...he could use some pointers on the other things.

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DAMN, YOU ARE A SEXY ONE-skipthisone

I beleive in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve, and I beleive in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days. Kevin Costner/Bull Duram

"Your body as well as mine has needs. This is juat a little foreplay to highten our desire for each other. If we play out the game of love to it's natural conclusion, you'll experience fulfillment. Give yourself up to me and I'll guide you along the path to pareadise. Together we will be like fire and ice, love and hate, life and death." Virginia Henley

WANTED: a moment when you kiss someone and eveything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and this person and you relize that he is the only person your suppose to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this amazing gift. You want to laugh and you want to cry. Cause you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared it will all go away at the same time.

#26 and #36 especially - if a guy's going to bark commands and fuck my face, I really will feel like a cheap whore, especially if he doesn't give a hoot whether I've cum or not, or even tried. Heck, if he's going to do that, why DOESN'T he just find somebody who will take $20 for it, rather than want reciprocation.

OTOH, it's NICE to be thanked. Not for great sex, or even good sex, but just for the closeness, for doing what I was doing, for causing pleasure, for caring to cause pleasure. Doing that is showing appreciation. Especially when combined with little things like making SURE I've had "the time of my life", which supercedes even last night's "time of my life", and, especially, sharing on the emotional level..... now THAT'S the ultimate in erotic! And guaranteed to get "many happy returns".

Me