How do you know it's ok to go there without her freezing up, turning around and saying "what did you just call me?"?

I mean, it's not like you start out by discussing your intentions for the encounter.

If there's the slightest doubt it'll add to the experience, don't.

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While it doesn't really bother me to be called 'Bitch' and it has happened on the odd occasion that I've dug my nails in really hard to tip him over the edge, in general I don't understand why men want to say it....can you shed any light?

I'm not quite sure why a woman is considered a bitch if she's having sex with you! LOL

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I guess it's a calculated risk. I mean, anyone that I would be intimate with would by then know that I'm not in to calling a woman "bitch" just to disrepect or demean her and that it only happened as part of role-playing sex. But still...that one's not as easy to laugh off as "I love your HUGE cunt!" was. lmfao

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I would derive pleasure from it in knowing that it would turn her on. Me? Hell, I could tug your hair and bang you hard without ever saying that but from what I'm seeing on the boards...well, some chicks dig it. ha ha

And I have to say, if you dig your nails in really hard...you're not hearing the B word from me! You're hearing me shout out to heaven to warn the Big Guy I'm on my way!

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Oh don't worry WI.....the bitch comment wasn't to make me stop digging my nails in.....quite the opposite.....like you, he's more than happy to take the rough with the smooth.

It turned me on when he said it in that context very much so.....and it can be a turn on to be called a 'dirty bitch' or a sexy one when the time is right.

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Lou.....

as far as guys wanting to say it? Maybe we all just want to fuck a bad girl once in a while, and calling her a "dirty bitch" or whatever, helps with the mental jump ? Ive never said it, but had it said TO me "fuck me like the little whore i am" so maybe it does have something to do with wanting to be "bad" ?

I think there's more than a five hour time difference between Loulabelle and Mrs. WI. lmfao

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Oh, yes, I do. Then again, I'm only likely to say something like this during some sort of of BDSM play, where it's almost a given that limits should be discussed beforehand.

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I'm with gekkogecko on this one, WI. When it's time to play the "bad girl," it's either been discussed between us beforehand, or he uses my alternate BDSM "name," the name he calls me when we play like that, to let me know we've switched over to THAT kind of play.

My sweetie and I have a high, healthy level of respect outside of the bedroom, and that carries over inside the bedroom as well. I know if he calls me that or some other flavorful noun, it's meant in the context of the moment and not as a reflection of how he feels about me in general.

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I have always been with men who were very very quiet during sex. If my current man all of a sudden called me a bitch, it wouldn't be the word that would astound me but that he actually spoke it Like IAKaraokeGirl, we really respect each other, and I know he would probably never call me a bitch for fear that I'd think he meant it in another way. That's where we are now, though... I am hoping to corrupt him more in the future!

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I don't mind being called bitch, if it fits the mood like the other ladies already said. There are times I love really dirty talk and lots of hair pulling.

I use bitch with my women friends and family as an endearment almost. I don't mind it and they don't either. Like my sister is proud to be called "Queen Bitch of the World" She worked hard for that title!

Now if it's meant to demean me then you can bet I will come back with a few demeaning words for you too. Then we will see who wins that battle.

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Substitute "bitch" for "slut" and you've got my interest. There are times I want him to treat me that way......he has only dared to do it once, and I had a great time.

I'd like the "say my name bitch" line because it'd remind me of American Pie.

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Hmmmmmmmmmmm a lady once informed me that she loved to be called bitch.......in her mind the acronym for bitch......was B:broad.....I:in........ T:total......C:control.......H: of herself.......so in reality to her......it was not a slur but a compliment, albeit not given as such in the context of the moment.With respect of your other in a relationship.....one is able to exact the true pleasure and and moments of passion.....and not be confused by spontaneous behaviour in the bedroom.Just my two cents........

So I should wait to say it until she's on all fours in front of me, with my hand wrapped in her hair and my cock buried in her pussy. Her head's tilted back and her eyes are glazed over. Her ass cheeks are red from the slap of my thighs (and maybe a hand) against them. Her clit is standing out, crying for each time my swaying testicles bump it. Sweat is dripping from my face and chest as I'm thrusting into her and pulling back on her hair like I'm bringing a race horse to a stop.

















And not holler that out when they ask for our full names while we're at our mortgage closing?

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.