I really don't post much here, but I like to read what everyone has to say. Hopefully the ladies here can answer a question for me about Anal and facials.

My SO will not allow me to perform anal with her, or do the facial because she says it is derogatory and humiliating to women. Anal is something that I would love to try, but I've never had a girlfriend who would let me, but this is the first time someone has said no because it's humiliating.

Facials I find extremely sexy to do with a woman. There's nothing more appealing to me than cumming over her face and seeing her with it just dripping off her face. I've done it before with others and love it.

My question then is actually a 2 parter. 1. Ladies do you allow a male to do either of these? 2. Do you find it derogatory or humiliating to have it done to you?

I would love for my SO to read this and see what other women have to say and maybe change her mind. Thank you for the answers and maybe the help.

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Hello Horny24/7,

Its almost your 1 yr anniversary of being a Pixie. Glad to see you posting and hope to see more.

1) I don't just 'allow' him to do them. I like both and ask him for them.

2) And neither one is derogatory or humiliating when done with or for someone special. But I agree with Sharni, that it depends on how it's done. I think the attitude and the emotional involvement has alot to do with it.

I'm glad your seeking input and suggestions on this rather then trying to coerce her into doing either. It shows how much you care for her. Give her time. It'll be worth the wait and so much better when you both want it.

teddy

I agree that just about any sexual act can be degrading, depending on the attitude of the "active" partner. A while back, someone from, I think, Italy, was saying that where he lives, men have a low opinion of women who perform fellatio. Thus, one could say that fellatio is degrading there, based on the attitudes of such males.

Unless my partner thinks of anal sex as degrading, I never would, and it's a favorite sexual activity of mine...one of the more intimate that I can share w/him. However, I DO consider coming on a person's face as degrading, whether my partner thinks so or not. It's not something I care to participate in. I'd much prefer that he come in my mouth.

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From a guy's POV,I agree with Sharniqua and Blue Swede.The act alone is fine,but the attitude in which it is given or expected can be degrading.I find it much sexier to cum inside or in her mouth than to pull out and squirt on her face or breasts.The possibilities are much greater.Besides,I love Cream Pies and the thought of passing from mouth to mouth. As for anal sex, it comes few and far between.Sort of like a special event sometimes.

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as far as i know my girlfriend loves it, she asks me to do it

Another male perspective... My wife and I both enjoy anal sex with her penetrating me on occasion. Facials are not our thing so we don't do that, but I agree that it depends on the people involved. It does not have to be degrading. Actually, I think you have to MAKE it that way if that's how you want it. My approach to anal is... Ladies first. Make sure it is enjoyable and comfortable for her, and the man's pleasure is guaranteed. Good luck!

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humiliating?

No, not at all.

i lovelovelovelvoevoelvoelove facials...as for anal...i havent tried and...and just think it'd be kinda...ucky. I dunno. I dont find either degrading though. And it's definately all in the attitude if it were.

-Skye eykS

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Skyzie, I'd LOVE giving you a facial anytime!

Neither are degrading, unles forced then any sex becomes degrading...I am not into facials but if it turns my partner on, then I let him go for it, as for anal, I have to be in the mood, and if I am really turned on will ask for it...

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