I don't know your age.If you are younger,I can understand some
mistrust(doubt)Actually,I have found that,NO matter what your age,without trust,you don't have a relationship!It took me years
to realise that!I agree mostly with Jennaflower but as said,just ask her! Irish
P.S.Some people can share & it doesn't bother them.I CAN'T!

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Irish---Better to be dead & cool,then alive & uncool!
(Harley Davidson & the Marlboro Man)

If your head is already lost over this, either walk out or shut up.

Trust needs to be absolute or you'll screw up the relationship

if she hasn't first.

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

What?

Even if he trusts her implicitly, that doesn't mean SHE is trustworthy.

He could trust her with all his heart and soul, and she could still be doing the wild monkey dance with this guy every chance she gets.

I have to speak from some experience on this subject here:

My BF and I, not to long ago, had this same situation. He had a good friend that he talked to on a regular basis that I knew about. One night, just fidgeting around, I find a text message on his phone to this chick that says "Call me when you are not busy and no one is around. I really need to talk to you badly" Then he ends this text message with some pathetic little typed picture of a rose (i.e. ---/---<@) Anyway, I tried to put this out of my head and that worked for about 10 minutes. I was just burning inside wanting to know what was up with this text message. So I confronted him and he, of course, said it was nothing and that I was making a "mountain out of a mole hill". Whatever - that still wasn't good enough for me.

I finally came to the following conclusion and told him that he either accept this one or live without me. I made a deal with him that I could play and snoop on his phone whenever I got ready (I mean, if he is not hiding anything then what's the big deal). I told him that I wanted to continue to be able to do this checking until I felt comfortable about the situation. He agreed and I checked a few times and saw nothing out of the ordinary, its been happy living ever since.

Good luck and hang in there - but also know when to call buddy if she is really messing around.

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Would you like more sex with that?

I wouldn't recommend sex, drugs or insanity for everyone, but they've always worked for me.

I can understand your doubts. Every relationship I have been in has doubts, because it is human nature to be suspicious.

What makes love so wonderful is that doubts can be overcome. Your partner has told you it is nothing and I think your love and trust for your partner should make you believe that.

There are things in my marriage that my partner doesn't know and there are things that I discuss with my friends that I wouldn't discuss with my wife (or in front of my wife for that matter!)

It could be something as innocent as a suprise party.

LindaP.... I agree... just because one trusts their partner, doesn't mean that their partner is worthy of it. BUT... without that trust.. that relationship is POINTLESS.

Lack of trust.. causes horrible effects... stress.... guilt... accusations... hurt... worry... paranoia... none of these things are good for the relationship.. or the overall wellness of the person who isn't able to trust...

Yeah, but if a person is betraying that trust, and you find out about it, you are better off by yourself.

It saves you a lot of heartache later.

I'd be very suspicious of "Can't talk now"